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Is Sexual Orientation Determined at Birth?

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  • +47 +101 -54 CeCe Apr. 24, 2014
    "I think the real question to ask is: When did people decide that they're straight?"
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    • +9 +13 -4 Brooks Mar. 23, 2016
      "What do you mean? Straight is the default sexuality, humans are genetically programmed to reproduce, as is about every other mammal."
    • +1 +1 0 joshua d. Jan. 9, 2018
      "You are born either a boy a girl, not a "to be decided""
    • +1 +1 0 Diana Dec. 18, 2017
      "Lemon: I like some of what you say, but your argument that we can assume something out of the ordinary happened to the gay or bi person doesn't hold water. There's no real reason to assume that; you could just as easily assume that it's all arbitrary and that there is no reason at all for the 10%."
    • 0 +2 -2 Lemon Feb. 28, 2017
      "No one decides to be straight though :P it could be described as the 'default program' for people but that is a rather mean way of putting it. Since it seems that 10% (ROUGHLY) of people don't turn out straight, it can be assumed that something out-of-the-ordinary happens during a gay/bi person's development to make them attracted towards which gender(s) they are attracted to."
  • +31 +44 -13 Rose Nov. 22, 2013
    "I am bisexual. That's just the way I am. For a long time I hated myself for it. I was terrified, I was angry, and I was sad. I've learned to accept it over the years, and now I'm okay with being who I am, but for such a long time I lived in fear. My question to you is: why would anyone choose that? Why would anyone choose to be afraid when they could be happy? Nobody would choose a life of hiding when they could be free. I didn't choose any of this, yet I've learned to live with it. I'm happy the way I am, but that certainly isn't how it was when I first discovered my sexuality. I honestly don't understand why people think we chose to be discriminated against, to be ostracized and seen as inferior just because of who we love. Just like you cannot choose the color of your skin, you cannot choose sexuality. It's just the way you are, and it amazes me how people can't accept something as simple as that."
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    • +1 +1 0 georgia Feb. 22, 2017
      "rose you are right because people can choose to be gay or straits"
    • -8 0 -8 Levi Henderson Feb. 18, 2016
      "Rose, there are a lot of people out there that disagree with how you are and they will treat you badly for it and its not right. But not everyone is like that. I have friends and an uncle that are bisexual and I disagree with it but I don't give them grief about it. I don't have to love the sin they are committing but i still love them."
  • +11 +23 -12 grace the ace May. 10, 2016
    "gay is ok"
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  • +11 +18 -7 Anon Apr. 10, 2014
    "I don't know and I don't care. Don't treat sexuality like its a birth defect. Love who you want to love and don't let religion or your opinion get in the way of other people's happiness."
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    • +1 +1 0 Holden Oct. 25, 2017
      "Being Homosexual is a mental ailment fact but I always accept gay people"
  • +6 +25 -19 claire Oct. 23, 2014
    "You think I chose to be gay? I chose to be hated by kids at my school and the people at my church? Straight people have it so easy. They're never asked when they became gay or why they can't just be "normal". I was born this way and I can't change that, nor do I want to."
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    • +4 +4 0 Lou Aug. 16, 2016
      "just because your strait doesn't mean your life is easy."
    • +1 +1 0 Reed Apr. 1, 2017
      "You started that paragraph by giving reasons for why nobody would choose to be gay, and then ended it by saying you want to stay gay."
    • 0 0 0 Robert Dec. 10, 2017
      "Are the only possibilities choosing it and being born that way? What about the possibility that it happened involuntarily some time during your life?"
  • +4 +5 -1 Joan Jan. 31, 2018
    "its not something that you are born with, and its not necessarily something you choose. its who you are. Just like how some people find who they are over time, or instantaneously, it cant and shouldn't be defined this way, is being straight something your born with? its the same. idea."
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  • +3 +8 -5 clone May. 14, 2017
    "clone a gay person and lets find out."
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  • +3 +18 -15 Jaya Jan. 25, 2014
    "I wanted to talk about weather people should accept gays. I just wanted to say one thing: Since I'm a lesbian and a HUGE Trekkie, If you don't already know, the first lesbian kiss in Star Trek was in DS9 in the '90's. People had about as much hate about the episode, (called: "Rejoined") as they did in the 60's when there was the first interracial kiss, (which was also the first interracial kiss on tv). The reason I want to talk about this is because of one story I read about a response to the lesbian kiss: One man called and complained to a Production assistant that the lesbian kiss would corrupt kids' minds. The PA asked if he would like it of one woman shot the other instead, the man said that would be okay with him, the PA then wondered whose mind was really corrupted. one woman killing another Vs. one woman kissing another. Get your priorities straight, (or should I say gay)."
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  • +2 +3 -1 Izzy May. 1, 2017
    "I don't know, I was only born once. I am a male, now 21. I've never had sex with anyone. Never thought about it because people don't interest. So I must either be a bisexual antisocial guy, or an asexual. But what's it got to do with me what other people want to be? Be what you want."
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  • +2 +5 -3 James Olson Jan. 27, 2017
    "Each brain hemisphere is gender specific as a result of the functional characteristics that it conveys, and capable of operating both sides of the brain. Genetic dominance determines which hemisphere is dominant; or if codominance prevails, both are dominant and one is bisexual; or if incomplete dominance prevails, one inherits a hybrid blend and the result is, for lack of a better word, polysexual. One's brain domiance is determined by genetics, but we know the environment can affect hormones, and hormones can affect genetics. In any case, this is something that is determined at birth or within weeks of birth. I cite my own work, How Whole Brain Thinking Can Save the Future (2017)"
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  • +1 +4 -3 Katie Nov. 1, 2017
    "We don't choose. It can be influenced, but we don't choose. It's like a favorite color. You can't choose whether you like blue or pink or both, it just comes naturally. For example, I am a female who is attracted to females. I have never seen any type of sex appeal in men. I ave always preferred female friends, listening to female voices and hugs with females. The fact is, it's not a conscious choice. You can't choose your favorite color, it's simply what you find most appealing. It is determined in the womb."
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  • +1 +6 -5 kiley May. 10, 2016
    "well gays are not that bad we are all humans and who cares if they are born gay its them if that is what they wanna be then they can... yes i have friends that don't support gay marriage but they are my friends and they can be total a------- but yea i do support and i love gays i even have a gay best friend they are nice kind funny and smart so yes"
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  • +1 +5 -4 lilly Jan. 27, 2016
    "I don't think that it really matters whether or no that we can tell if we are gay or straight. I remember questioning my sexuality when i was about 6 years old. We learn as we grow and it depends on our experiences as to what we believe."
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  • +1 +9 -8 Harper Apr. 22, 2015
    "Nobody chooses to be gay. There would be no gays if they had a choice. No man/woman would admit to liking the same sex if they didn't actually feel that way. "Coming out of the closet" doesn't just result in everyone knowing but it also comes with hurtful words and bullying."
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  • +1 +3 -2 Elliott Forrette Sep. 11, 2014
    "Tell me if you feel the same way, but I'd rather say that a boy likes boys and girls like girls rather then gay or lesbian. I just feel like everything we say has to be organized and have labels for everything. I think making a word for something like gay or lesbian instills fear into most people, making them afraid of the most important person to them. Themselves. If you have an opinion, such as, "being something something is ok, I just don't really like it in pubic," then that's fine. That's the way they that person thinks. Is it ok? Yes! As long as your not shoving things down another persons throat. I think that you can love who ever it is that you want. It's your choice"
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    • 0 0 0 Bee Momiji Stotch May. 6, 2015
      "we have a name for our being, we have a name for our lives."
  • +1 +3 -2 Risha Rene Feb. 15, 2014
    "Sexual orientation and sexual ACTS and behaviors are two completely different things. Therefore, I am both Pro and Con on this. A person cannot control who they are attracted to. But it is fair to ask 1) what causes the attraction? and 2) is any person required to act on the attraction? It is difficult to know what goes on in another person's head.There is obviously a legitimate attraction to the same gender. But I think it is fair for us to ask why. Is it purely physical? Sexuality is too complex for that. Liberal and pro-gay rights professors, scholars, scientists, psychiatrists, psychologists have said so. There are many reasons people are attracted to another and it isn't just their anatomy. So the idea that sexuality or attraction is FIXED and can NEVER be changed is false. Secondly, no gay or straight person is required to act on their attraction. Therefore, one can be gay mentally but not sexually, just as a straight person can. I would think that gay people would be offended by the underlying assumption that that their attractions are purely physical (they are shallow) and that they are incapable of controlling those attractions so they must have sex. Being gay does not mean one is required to live that out."
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  • +1 +3 -2 rextr Feb. 9, 2014
    "I have read many con arguments on this site & it is often stated that this or that study has shown ...... without mentioning the specific study parameters or others state, "it has been shown ......" without giving any back up for their argument. Faulty reasoning.
    Because it is still a mute point, we all can speak of conjecture. During my long coaching career, I have witnessed very young children growing up. The boys that seemed to be effeminate at the early age seemed to stay that way with no apparent reason for it. So therefore, I believe it is genetic. (The observations I have made over the years are much more complicated than what I have just stated, nonetheless, it does span about 40 years of coaching baseball & wrestling."
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    • 0 0 0 Robert Apr. 19, 2014
      "That's especially interesting to me because I too coach children (football). Apparently you're taking effeminacy in boys as a marker for homosexuality, which is not too unreasonable a hypothesis. It may be that effeminacy in boys helps cause homosexuality, or it may be that something causes both effeminacy & homosexuality in boys. Unfortunately your observ'ns don't go back to birth. Perhaps someone could do a longer-term blinded prospective study that would indeed do that. Unfortunately it could take more than a lifetime to develop expertise in gauging effeminacy in baby boys, but the ability to so discriminate and make predictions would be the subject of the study."
  • +1 +3 -2 Devon B. Jan. 21, 2014
    "This is coming from someone who is themselves gay. I have grown up believing that being gay was a bat thing, due to the amount of times people mentioned it in a negative way. I would stop myself whenever I noticed I would think of other guys. In grade 9 I noticed that the few gay people in my school were out and everyone accepted them, however I still didn't want to admit that I liked guys. After having a 6 month relationship with a girl who I thought I loved, I broke up with her because I realized that I didn't want to do anything more than a little peck on the lips. I didn't choose not to, but something was telling me that I just didn't want to go further with this girl, or any girl for that matter. My homosexuality was being internally suppressed and later released when I found out that in society it is becoming accepted and it isn't an immoral thing. I am a normal person, I pride myself on being courteous to others, and to do my best on not offending anyone. I just happen to like other guys."
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  • +1 +6 -5 Max Dec. 9, 2013
    "As my friend puts it, "Why would I choose to be something that could get me killed? Why would I choose to be something that is oppressed and hated by millions?""
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  • +1 +2 -1 m Norris Dec. 4, 2013
    "How is this even debated anymore? I feel like Columbus arguing the World is Round! In response to the umpteen Doctors stating that the only medical professionals who have come to this conclusion are themselves homosexuals, how does that better serve your argument? How could a straight doctor have a better understanding of the determination of homosexuality than a doctor that has in fact lived it? Why do we criminalize first hand knowledge as if it is without a doubt bias? And then in the same breath make a second or third hand determination? It ludicrous! WANT TO KNOW IF SEXUAL ORIENTATION IS DETERMINED AT BIRTH? Ask someone who is homosexual about their first sexual thoughts and then ask someone who is heterosexual about their first sexual thoughts. Case closed. We are the same, just different. You have a big nose, I have tiny ears. You prefer oranges, I prefer apples. Womp Womp, Nobody cares. As people, we need to stop looking for ways to put others "over there"- at a distance. "Here" seems like a very lonely place.
    What's the purpose of this debate anyways? What does the determination of this debate affect? Even if it were a choice, which it is not, why would that be significant?"
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  • +1 +10 -9 Pooh Nov. 19, 2013
    "You are born gay. No one chooses to have their own family hate them."
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  • +1 +8 -7 Lisa Oct. 22, 2013
    "My 1st life experience with a girl was at 5 yrs old. I had a best pal who was so cute and we hung out all the time.Hopscotch sleep overs and holding hands as well as kisses on the cheek. I didnt like the boys cause they were icky and smelled and were to rough. I come from a household of straight parents who loved each other til my step father found alchohol and ptsd.There was a point in my life growing up where I was getting counceling because I felt out of body meaning not n the right body. I knew my whole entire life I am a bisexual woman. Nothing more and nothing less. You are definitly born the way you are."
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  • +1 +7 -6 charlotte Mar. 30, 2013
    "Being gay is like being straight, its just your sexual orientation. We are looking way to in to it, you never here people saying you are born straight. You are born YOU, whether your gay, straight, bisexual, transgender. People are so afraid of the word gay because we are brought up in a society that believes it is "unnatural". Well guess what the definition of natural is: "Existing in or caused by nature" Well, gay people are PEOPLE too, they were created by nature so why are they called unnatural."
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  • +1 +5 -4 Kate Jan. 20, 2013
    "It's neither!!!!!!!! Neither side can be definitively proven with scientific evidence. Regardless, the derivation of homosexuality should be irrelevant. What matters is the discrimination that exists in the US against homosexuals. There should be a focus to end that. Not get to the end of a stupid debate."
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    • 0 0 0 Reeds Feb. 5, 2017
      "Kate, you need to understand that society is lying to people telling them you're trapped in the opposite sex body, it's damaging to society. This is why it's important."
  • 0 0 0 IM NOT GOING TO SAY May. 9, 2018
    "Gay, lesbian, WHO CARES? as long as you're happy do you and ill do me"
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  • 0 0 0 someone May. 1, 2018
    "I am pan boy if you dont know what the is look up pansexsul and you cant just say were born like this were are not you of you cant talk your no even gay I know a lot of you are and to the people who are not what are you even saying"
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  • 0 +1 -1 L Jan. 11, 2018
    "Born this Way"
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  • 0 +1 -1 Jack Jan. 6, 2018
    "We know sexual orientation is decided at birth because we've studied it. Gay babies usually get less testosterone at birth and lesbian babies get less female sex chemicals. It's unfair to say that someone that had different chemicals in their body at birth are bad- it's like discriminating because of race or because of curly hair!"
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  • 0 +1 -1 J Jul. 27, 2017
    "I believe that in a perfect world, everyone uses the body parts they were born with in an obvious manner. And being straight, I admit I haven't a clue how a homosexual or trans feels, or what could possibly attract them to someone with the same body parts, or desire a change in their body. My question is: are there homosexuals who wish they weren't, and in conjunction with that, do they find a way to change into something else, and are they happy?"
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    • 0 0 0 Anon Oct. 11, 2017
      "I'm sure that there are homosexuals who believe that they are aren't valid because they were raised believing that gay people are evil/don't exist/won't ever be happy. But I hope that they all find out that they are valid and that all love is beautiful because the most beautiful things are the most unique, and the only way to be unique is by being yourself. I myself am pan and wouldn't change it for the world."
  • 0 +1 -1 Terence Jul. 24, 2017
    "I am gay myself and I've always wanted to be straight, still do want to but I have to learn to accept things I can't change if i like or not. I've always known i was gay since i was really little. One of my first memories is liking a boy in pre school he was Hispanic and I remember wanting to be close to him and i had a huge crush on him and I remember him telling the teacher that i was getting to close to him and the teacher responded that i liked him and then saw me as a freak for liking him because he said only mommy and daddy's can like each other. So it's not like i woke up one day and decided it's just always been there but i still hope it's a choice because i would rather be straight but i'm not i'm gay"
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  • 0 +2 -2 Diana Jun. 27, 2017
    "i believe you are in fact born gay. i believe this because you can't just wake up one day an automatically switch what sex you like. in my opinion i don't think kids choose to get made fun of, teased, bullied or even beat up because of their sexuality. If being gay was a choice how come "Coming out of the closet" is such a big thing? People are scared to come out an say it. If it was a choice would they really be scared? Now that's something to think about!"
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    • 0 0 0 Robert Dec. 10, 2017
      "There are lots of things you can't switch yet are not chosen. People don't choose to have accidents or get diseases, but weren't born with them.

      Why does it have to be accident of birth, when it could be accident of life?"
  • 0 +2 -2 Kylee Apr. 4, 2017
    "I think that LGBT is part of your genes or DNA. Its irreversible but it takes a considerable amount of effort or fear... most people who are LGBT keep it in the dark bc they're afraid of what others will think and what their parents think. they're afraid their parents will pull the 'I'm not mad i'm just disappointed.' card. People should imagine what they would feel like if THEIR parents had said that to them. Its sad what people do and they dont even know why they do it."
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  • 0 +2 -2 Crystal Mar. 27, 2017
    "I think it should be legal becaue some people want to date the same race not that there is anyting wrong with that people just feel a a way about eachother"
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  • 0 +5 -5 dezeray Mar. 7, 2017
    "i think it alright to be gay"
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  • 0 +2 -2 georgia Feb. 22, 2017
    "i think they should be able to decide weather they are gay or not. gay marriage should ok"
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  • 0 +3 -3 adri Feb. 8, 2017
    "how can you stop yourself from being sexually attracted to someone, how could your life influence who you find attractive"
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    • 0 0 0 Omar Feb. 28, 2017
      "you cant defend this, like saying my dog is not a boy even though he has a penis. Just stop defending this"
  • 0 +2 -2 The Settler Jan. 30, 2017
    "I believe that any child is influenced partially by genes and partially by the environment. It is up to the child to act upon these feelings but it is the parents duty to defend their child no matter what they choose. Honestly, this debate is idiotic. Humans are still humans, no matter their sexual orientation. People should love no mater what. I love you all."
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  • 0 +4 -4 yaboi Jan. 10, 2017
    "im bisexual
    i live in a conservative homophobic family
    there is literally no way i could've been brought up like this
    i wouldve been disowned"
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  • 0 +5 -5 TheGamerLove13 Oct. 17, 2016
    "I'm bisexual myself, and believe no one should discriminate against LGBT in any form because it's determined at birth."
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  • 0 +4 -4 Beyonce Apr. 14, 2016
    "its how your born i mean its not like you can change who you are I'm not going to bash something just because I don't understand it smh"
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  • 0 +5 -5 Gary Mar. 3, 2016
    "I say you are born gay. There may be some men that have crossed over and had some sexual encounters with a man. For what ever reasons they may have had. I'm a older gay man and knew at a very young age I was different than the other boys I knew. I tried to be like them, my interests were completely opposite of theirs. When I was around ten I had my first encounter with another boy my age. We enjoyed playing with each other and had sleepovers at each others house. We would get naked and enjoyed looking at each others naked body. As we got older we kissed and performed oral sex on each other. We both new we were "Faggots" "Queers" "Homos" that's what you were called back then. The term Gay came along much later."
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  • 0 +4 -4 Morgan Pugh Jan. 7, 2016
    "I am lesbian and i know your born with it because ever since i was in kindergarten I was attracted to females even though i did not quite understand it. I have tried to date men and change who i was. It did not work i am physically attracted and sexually attracted to females. Programs do not work either and for those who say it does in my opinion lie because this is not something you choose: being ridiculed, bullied, beaten, told your a mistake. No one chooses this life and i know that. I tried to hide my feelings and change myself and i could not. Ever since i was little i knew who i was and so did my family. In my opinion i could care less what others think we are not hurting anyone being the way we are. All of you say choice i say destiny, for those of you who deny it to yourselves and others, your just hurting yourself. Come out and yes you will be shunned but to me its worth because i could not be happier."
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  • 0 +3 -3 Lares01 Sep. 21, 2015
    "I was born into a very strict christian family. I was never surrounded by gay people. I was never sexually assaulted. I was just attracted to girls, emotionally and physically. But I do get the fact that some people are "ex-gay", but I don't fully understand how someone could just change their sexuality. Never once have I thought about going to my church and having them "pray the gay away", because I accepted myself and I didn't care about what my family and some friends thought. Now, I attend a church that loves and supports me throughout my journey through life. So yes, I believe that people are born gay, but people weren't born to believe and accept it."
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  • 0 +4 -4 bob Apr. 22, 2015
    "yes i feel like you can be born this way because sometimes the people that are gay don't want to be gay and they try to make it go away and they have no choice."
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  • 0 +4 -4 Ray Winters Mar. 5, 2015
    "I think this issue is a lot less straightforward than a lot of people (and, indeed, ProCon's own introduction to the topic) are making it out to be. The only reason I'm putting this comment under the 'Pro' section is that I'm not completely against the idea of someone's orientation being determined at birth. However, I don't think that there is sufficient evidence to say that this applies to everyone.

    For some background, I myself am bisexual, and I don't believe my own sexuality was determined at birth, as I haven't always felt the need to identify this way. At the same time, it's not as if my sexual attraction is a conscious choice I make - it's probably based on social conditioning and a multitude of other factors beyond my control. I've met a lot of other non-straight people who feel the same, but I've also met quite a few who DO believe their orientation was determined at birth, or at the very least at an early age.

    Regardless of how you feel about the origins of sexual orientation, I believe that you shouldn't be using your arguments to justify hate. Even if people choose to be gay, so what? A personal choice is a personal choice, as long as it's not harming anyone else."
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  • 0 +3 -3 bruuuuuuhhhhhh Nov. 17, 2014
    "Well i don't really think that can determine who your going to be. If you decide that you want to be gay/lesbian, then that's your choice. Your orientation shouldn't determine everything about their life.It's up to you about what you want to be. Not anything else in this world."
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    • 0 0 0 Bee Momiji Stotch May. 6, 2015
      "It's not a choice. It just happens to some people. and yeah, it's not really anyone's business on what your sexuality is."
  • 0 +3 -3 Vana Dylan Nov. 13, 2014
    "Sexuality should not be an issue , it's none of our business nor do we have the right to judge others for being with the same sex. This generation is ridiculous. People need to grow up , they are judging these people because they are different. When did being different become a bad thing? I For one do not believe that you sexuality is determined at birth because at that time you don't even know what poop is, I'm not trying to judge or target anyone, I for one am Bisexual."
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  • 0 +7 -7 Ashley Feb. 21, 2014
    "Did you choose to be straight? I don't think so. I don't even know why this is a debate because it's obvious people don't just go "choosing" what they are attracted to. If I could choose to like carrots over carrot cake, I would. It really doesn't take a genius to figure this one out."
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    • +1 +1 0 Robert Apr. 19, 2014
      "But if you look at the question at the top of the page, you haven't answered it: Is sexual orient'n determined at birth? Don't blame me if the bosses of asked the wrong question, or failed to ask that related question, but it seems most of the people here are answering the question of whether sex attraction is chosen, as a substitute for the question that they asked.

      Do you think your preference for carrot cake over carrots was determined at birth? How would you investigate the stage at which one's preference between carrots & carrot cake is determined?"
    • 0 0 0 anonymous Mar. 1, 2014
      "Actually, I did choose to be straight. It's not something I'm born with; I do it because I want to, and because that's the mindset I choose to stick to. I think that it's not a matter of birth but a matter of switching or staying with the frame of your mind.I could choose right here right now to be gay if I wanted to. I just don't."
  • 0 +3 -3 Gillian Nov. 24, 2013
    "Yeah. I think people's personalities are predetermined in their genes. Obviously this has a way with the nature vs. nurture issue, but when we hear parents talk about their children these days they already know from their childhood patterns that their child is gay. There isn't any parenting style that makes a person gay, it's just who they are. Most people who have a gay child have other children that aren't gay. They can't change who they are. There is no reason why we should call this a mental disorder. Being gay is being a person. Some people are outgoing, some people are shy, and some people are gay. When I was a younger child the word "gay" was a bad word. I don't understand why considering my parents are democrats and are openly okay with people of that society. It was just the way of living. "Gay" shall not be spoken. That's wrong. That's like saying "shy" shall not be spoken. It's simply a describing word for people who fit the stereotype. Don't judge. We're all different."
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  • -1 0 -1 Mrs. Davis Mar. 2, 2018
    "I know a family that has three four brothers with the same mom but only two of the brothers has the same dad. The two of the four are homosexual and have always known that about themselves. One is asexual and one heterosexual. Some studies are currently being done to see if there is a correlation between the genetics passed on through the mother and the likelihood of homosexuality."
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  • -1 0 -1 august Feb. 22, 2018
    "just saying if ex gay ministries worked would they all use the same technique? you never see one place use the same technique as another it's all their own idea. if this stuff worked wouldn't they all have the same program?"
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  • -1 0 -1 Dylan Jul. 13, 2017
    "I believe that you are who you are and that is how you were born. My family is all heterosexual, but I am predominantly homosexual. Although I was raised in a liberal household, I wasn't aware that homosexuality existed until I was 12, which is when I became aware of my sexual orientation. Throughout my life I had never been attracted to the opposite gender, and although I didn't know the name for it I did know that I didn't really like the opposite gender, although I was not aware I was gay."
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  • -1 +4 -5 clary Apr. 19, 2016
    "If your not born gay they why are we born straight?"
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    • 0 0 0 anon May. 4, 2017
      "so that we can survive as a species?"
  • -1 +1 -2 Nicole Mar. 28, 2016
    "I don't think that people can choose to be gay. Whether it's decided by genes or not is another question entirely. Gay people have faced many backlashes for it including being kicked out of their own house, forcing themselves into the closet, discrimination, being unable to show affection to a partner, being called sinners, bashing, inability to marry (pre 2015), and death, whether by suicide or homicide. It's a very serious matter and it doesn't seem logical for a person to willingly choose to be gay if these could be the outcomes. Of course, that's not going to happen to everyone, but it does occur. Also, from a religious standpoint, I believe that God created everyone in his image, and people should learn to love and accept each other, despite our differences."
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  • -1 +1 -2 aaron Feb. 25, 2016
    "I do not know why it matters so much. today my class took a homophobe test. most people today are not a homophobe. id like to believe this at least. also i don't 100% believe that it this happens at birth but i do lean to that side because i myself have experimented in homosexuality. i was told i am gay a lot in school because i act that way. however after having quite a lovely experience with another man i decided that i am simply not gay. even tho i went all the way and somewhat enjoyed it (not trying to be crude here) i enjoy a woman's touch more than a man's. so i don't think being gay is a choice or caused by environment. at most homosexuality can be influenced by environment but the overall sexuality is probably genetic.

    I don't think i could have tried being gay any more than i did..."
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  • -1 +1 -2 Kaitlynn Moore Dec. 13, 2015
    "It is biological. If you have ever noticed, no one ever decides, "yeah, I think I'll be straight". It is just attraction that happens subconsciously. Also, when was your first crush? Mine was on a girl at age 3 (I'm a girl too) and I was raised in a family that is homophobic on one side, and completely carefree on the other. I always thought that it was bad to be attracted to someone of the same gender, but as I got older I realized I didn't choose not to be straight, I had feelings for a girl before I even knew whether that was okay or not. I do not think it is influenced by your environment nearly as much as your biology. However, it could just as easily be assumed that being straight is influenced by your environment, and pressure to fit in."
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  • -1 +1 -2 Morgan Nov. 12, 2015
    "Well, here's the thing, it's a difficult question to ask because we really don't know what's going on inside a gay person's body when they are figuring out their sexuality, because obviously we aren't them. To be honest, I think the best day will be when we no longer talk about being gay or straight because honestly, it's not a gay marriage, it's just a marriage, it's not a gay wedding, it's just a wedding. I mean, okay, there's no such thing as a gay gene because, well, there just isn't (proven fact). I believe that you don't choose to be gay, but I don't believe you're born with it. It's just a part of your brain that decides what gender you are and what sexuality you are, it's not a matter of oh I was straight like and hour ago, but now I'm gay. It's just not like that. Puberty does have an impact on sexual orientation though. I believe that because your brain and hormones are changing some things get mixed up in your brain and you start to believe you're gay."
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  • -1 +1 -2 Ralph Gardner Mar. 27, 2015
    "There is over preponderance of belief that everything can only be determined in the genes. The 'science' has not found any specific links but the discussion continues. Like my daughter, being gay was all she understood and only by age 7 did she become aware that society had different ideas.
    I believe, before we're born into a body, we're souls first and therein decisions for our life path are planned including sexual orientation as means for experiencing the ongoing saga of consciousness. This will run against those who are Christian or simply those who don't consider life before birth or after death. I've known many with "near-death experiences" who vouch for the reality of the "afterlife".
    Point is that we're more than just a body and a functioning brain...we are consciousness itself and that takes on a whole different conversation which is not imbued with limitations as occurs in religious discussion...thankfully"
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  • -1 +1 -2 Kasem Sep. 18, 2014
    "In my opinion yes, it is, because I don't think anyone can tell me the moment when they made the choice between a man and a woman, meaning both were a viable option and everyone went through the decision process with a criteria. For Bisexuals I think its possible to naturally be attracted to both sexes, in the same way it is possible to have two different colored eyes which is called heterochromia. At the same time, even if its a choice, why the hell does it matter who other people choose to marry? If two people love one another and are willing to be committed to one another they should be allowed to be married, and be happy not live through other peoples twisted views of happiness."
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  • -1 +1 -2 Jaclyn Apr. 30, 2014
    "People know what they like when they are little. No one tells them who they should or shouldn't like; they choose for themself. That's what people don't understand. No one sat these children or teens down and TOLD them to be gay. It was their choice. And it's who they are. I'm not gonna judge no child of mine if they come out like the same sex. It's their life, stop trying to control them."
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  • -1 +5 -6 Cheyenne Apr. 11, 2014
    "I honestly believe that homosexuality is determined at birth. I never chose to like females, but I do. If I had the choice to like guys, I would. Trust me when I say that I would never have chosen to be something that so many people find socially unacceptable. When I hear people say it's a choice, it pisses me off to be quite honest. Did you heterosexuals consciously choose to like the opposite sex as well? Nope. My point is that no one really makes that decision. It's just who we are. Furthermore, why does it matter who people choose to like anyway? I think that we all should have a major attitude check and realize that gay people always have and always will be here. Nothing will change that. Learn to accept that there are people in this world who have different opinions, beliefs, and/or preferences than you. This shouldn't even be an issue to begin with. Come on guys"
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    • 0 0 0 Varna Dylan Nov. 13, 2014
      "But it shouldn't matter what is "socially unacceptable " it only depends on what you want and care for."
  • -1 +1 -2 Cienna Feb. 14, 2014
    "i wasnt born gay or different i just think its alrite that people that r gay or lesbaian should hav the same rights as us .......i really dont like it wen people make fun of those people who r .......its shouldnt b a wrong thing ...its how people feel about others just it can b the same sex its not good wen u people that r gay treat them different"
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  • -1 +4 -5 Jaya Jan. 25, 2014
    "Yes, because I'm a lesbian and I have been since birth.
    SOURCE: Personal experience. :)"
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  • -2 0 -2 Derrick Jul. 3, 2017
    "I believe as with alot of phenomenas in life, nature created chance of sexuality during growth in the womb. Sex from the Creator is such a wonderful experience, that for it only to be for procreation, we'd have been programmed as such; such as however, sex can be explored in it's intimacy; only limit in expression is in it's participants."
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  • -2 +2 -4 Dwain - Texas Sep. 12, 2015
    "Nature overwhelmingly shows creative and offspring-rearing diversity, i.e. a very non-binary mating system. Humans are only just now beginning to learn and embrace what embryology, genetics, and evolution has been doing for many millenia and continually CHANGES over time despite man's ego and piousness."
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  • -2 +1 -3 Trish Aug. 6, 2015
    "It doesn't matter. We don't know how it happens. What we DO know is that it happens, and most homosexuals feel it wasn't a choice. People say they "believe" one way or another, but nobody knows. Let's just accept that it happens and allow everyone to be who they are and let them pursue happiness like the rest of us. They aren't hurting anyone. Why should we hurt them?"
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  • -2 +1 -3 Elizabeth Apr. 22, 2015
    "I believe that sexual orientation is determined by nature. I think this because of some events that happened when I was about 14 years old. Anyone can chose to be gay or lesbian even when its not right, but when you are you don't chose you are born that way.I believe this because in middle school every girl went through a faze and thought they were lesbians the thought of kissing girl made me sick to my stomach but when someone is born that way it is just normal to them. You don't choose to be gay you are born that way because if you werent born that way human nature would prevent you from liking the same sex in my opinion because you would feel out of place and wrong because thats not how you were born."
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  • -2 +2 -4 Josey Apr. 22, 2015
    "I think that gay people are born gay because for most people they just feel the way they do from a really young age. There isn't any explanation why they would like the same sex other than they were just born that way."
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  • -2 +1 -3 Samantha Carnahan Apr. 22, 2015
    "I think yes because there have been multiple people that have killed themselves because they are gay. Why would a person choose to be gay? They knew they would get made fun of for it. Why would they want to put themselves into a position to get made fun of? They don't want to be a target. Everyone has a different opinion on the subject and a lot f people get touchy about it. People cry and kill themselves over the subject of being gay."
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  • -2 +2 -4 Brayden Carpenter Apr. 22, 2015
    "I believe that people can have a hiccup in their DNA and that this would contribute to a hormone imbalance making the same-sex more appealing."
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  • -2 +3 -5 douglas nusbaum Mar. 27, 2015
    "This is my first post. One can not teach a pig to sing. Individuals holding a belief that clearly contradicts all known information and is supported by exactly zero actual studies will not have their minds changed by more information. I suggest that readers visit : Where they will find such gems as:

    The results of one (out of two) of the studies, (which deny a 'gay gene') which was conducted in 2000, was later disputed by its main researcher.

    The organization is composed almost entirely of people who state they have always been straight; of the ten people who make up the groups board of directors, only one states they are ex-gay.

    Me again. No one has ever claimed that there is a Gay gene. That argument is a red herring straw man. But there is no hermaphrodite gene or aspergers gene or autism gene or intersex gene or schizophrenic gene

    To put for such an argument (no gay gene) is to do nothing more than to demonstrate that you are completely ignorant of what science is and how it works and that your primary motivation is to force people who are different from you to suffer as much as possible. Please go away, and ST*U"
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  • -2 +2 -4 Z Jan. 22, 2015
    "Whether it is someone's choice or not to be homosexual doesn't matter whatsoever. Some people are comfortable with some things that other people just aren't. If I'm uncomfortable around cats who does that affect? Me. No one else. I don't understand why people are so uppity about something that only affects the people involved. If what someone else is doing doesn't hurt you or others then it's none of your business."
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  • -2 +2 -4 Samantha Ludeman Dec. 22, 2014
    "Being gay isn't something we wish upon ourselves. We can't say I want to be gay so I am or I hate being gay so I'm going to stop. I only wish it was that easy. I have a great relationship with my parents so it can't be from lack there of. It can't be the way we are raised because I have a bisexual sister and a straight sister. We were taught not to judge anybody for being themselves and that is that."
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  • -2 +1 -3 Griffin Dec. 17, 2014
    "To all people who are con: when did you chose to be straight? Think about it. You didn't. It just was. I believe you are born with your sexuality at birth, but you don't know what it is until puberty (obviously). Also please explain to me how you are raised can change your sexuality. It doesn't. People say if a guy wears pink he will end up being gay. Well for one, how the heck can a color preference change someone's sexuality, and for two, pink isn't a "girl color" it's a dang color. One of not so many. It's not reserved for girls. They say if a girl plays football she will be a lesbian. Well for one, again, that makes absolute no sense, and for two, football, or any sport, or really any activity, isn't just for boys or just for girls. I am a firm believer that when it comes to activities and stuff that there is no such thing as "masculine" or "feminine". I think the only thing that should be labeled as that are things on your body that are determined by your sex. Preferences on activities are not determined by your sex. Guys can like shopping and girls can like cars. The only reason generic girls and guys like what they do is because society trained them to be like that, because society sucks c:
    Well out of characters :/"
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  • -2 +1 -3 Wyatt Oelkers Dec. 8, 2013
    "If a heterosexual can tell me when they chose to be straight, I'll be damned. It's not a choice; it's a predetermined trait. We as a society need to accept that."
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    • +1 +1 0 Oelkers? Jan. 26, 2016
      "I would love to see your evidence. how can we accept whats not true? I'm sure God would have said something about it in the bible. Are you saying ha forgot something? no, because he didn't."
  • -2 +1 -3 (._. ) Nov. 26, 2013
    "I agree with Victor Greywolf, but I never chose to be gay. I didn't want to be gay at all, yet I've known something was different about me since middle of first grade when I started finding boys cute. Ever since then, I've had to hide my true self from everyone, and when I did come out, I was fired from 2 separate jobs, lost quite a few friends and my grandma refuses to talk to me. Who would want that if being gay was a choice? I am suffering from depression (caused by things outside of being gay) but it got worse because I had to hold my true self in, I've already attempted suicide, and I'm not even 19 yet. Once again, if being gay was a choice, who on earth would want that?"
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  • -2 +2 -4 JL Sep. 5, 2013
    "Obviously, everyone who is gay KNOWS it as a child, or at least knows they dont feel the "normality" others the same sex do whom are not gay."
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  • -2 +4 -6 jose luis pablo juan Apr. 22, 2013
    "Can there be any doubt that homosexuality is a matter of nature not nurture? There is absolutely no choice involved. If there was a choice, nobody would be gay. What person would consciously choose a lifestyle which must be kept secret. The gay person stands the chance of being disowned and evicted by their parents, losing their job, being constantly ridiculed, and is a prime candidate for a hate crime. So with all this as a given, who would really choose to be gay? People always want to do what is socially acceptable and being gay is surely no one of them. I ask my straight friends when did you make your choice and they all look at me mystified. I just come right out and ask them when they made this critical decision. The answer is always the same, they didn't make a choice, "that's just the way I am." So when the majority of the population can't ever recall making a sexual orientation decision, why do they feel that gay's do. The fact that gay youth must hide their true identity often leads to extreme depression and suicide still remains the leading cause of death among gay teenagers. The evidence has been in for a long time. Therefore, I can't understand how this nature/nurture issue is still out there."
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  • -2 +4 -6 Oak Apr. 7, 2013
    "im conflicted on this because of an experience that happened to me several months ago.for most of my life I was pretty sure I was straight I daydreamed about guys everyonce in a while but never really thought about girls or even I had nothing against gays or lesbiens or bi people but I just was very sure since I had never been attracted to a girl.that kind of changed one day when my friends dared me to kiss a lesbian on a playground in my teenage years. truthfully I wasn't bothered by the idea because I never had my first kiss so I wanted to get it over I did it actually enjoyed it even though it was a one time fling and then started to realize I was attracted to some girls.???however most of the girls in my school were straight so I dated a few guys instead. I didn't kiss a guy till this year. it was weird I didn't feel eventully broke it off. since that kiss im attracted to both girls and guys now but im leaning to girls more.i know this sounds strange but I think its a combination why I said pro I partially agree its genetics.however I think its highly possible when you open your mind to things that seem unsual you might like them.if I hadn't kissed that girl I still would think im straight."
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  • -2 +2 -4 Sid Apr. 4, 2013
    "I think in some cases it is, some it isnt. I've been pretty sure my whole life that I could love anyone reguardless of their gender. but at the same time I know many people who never looked at the same sex that way until they were much older. It's not a choice, but I think some people are born gay and some are not."
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  • -2 +3 -5 Christine Driskill Apr. 2, 2013
    "It most definitely is determined at birth. I've known many gays whether they were childhood friends or family, they all knew something was different as a child. I guess it wasn't until they reached sexual maturity is when they figured out they were. NONE of them said they decided this on their own. I'm not a doctor, I am just determining this on my own experiences and no one can "turn" someone gay by doing something. That's crazy."
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  • -2 +3 -5 CRISS Mar. 4, 2013
    "ummm first of all no one chooses to be born gay or straight it just happens and second there is no gay gene or no gay or straight trait it all depends on how much testosterone and estrogen the baby gets and if the baby gets any of the opposites hormones then the baby pops out gay big whoop its not a big deal it happens randomly you will never find a gay gene n anyone just look at the hormones of the people"
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  • -2 +3 -5 Mike Angelastro Feb. 28, 2013
    "Based on the Declaration of Independence, it doesn't matter whether a person's sexual orientation is nature or nurture. All adults have the right to engage in sexual activity with all other willing adults regardless of gender; this is an inherent part of the universal inalienable right to pursue happiness. So it seems to me that a pro/con here is not relevant."
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  • -3 +2 -5 lucy Nov. 3, 2016
    "yes, people can just become gay. some say sexual abuse or being sexual taken advatage of will make you like this, but ive been sexually assulted and im not gay,I was abused but im not gay so these argumentas not backed up and they need to be."
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  • -3 +1 -4 Chas Oct. 4, 2016
    "I think we are all born Bi-Sexual and then make the choice on which gender/genders we want to be with!"
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  • -3 +1 -4 Maddie Jan. 6, 2016
    "Calling someone gay doesn't make you straight
    (I got that fact from g+)"
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  • -3 +1 -4 Elisha Rogers Mar. 10, 2015
    "I think that a person doesn't have a choice if they are born gay or lesbian. It is what it is and if they were asked to be straight they wouldn't because why should they have to change who they are as a person. Let them be a human being because in reality that's what we all are in this life no matter what!"
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  • -3 +2 -5 Emily Rose Feb. 7, 2014
    "The evolutionary advantage to homosexuality has been proven, so it must be genetic. If one male offspring is attracted to other males, then the female sibling will be more attracted to men as well, and thus, have more offspring as a result of that. This phenomenon wouldn't occur if homosexuality wasn't a trait to be born with, along with any other hereditary trait. So yes, in my opinion, gays are "born gay", and shouldn't be denied basic rights (after all, racism, based on another hereditary trait, is immoral and wrong; why shouldn't homophobia be the same?)."
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  • -3 +1 -4 Kristen Bassford Sep. 10, 2013
    "Even if homosexuality was a result of how they were raised, people are raised to be drug addicts, child molesters, spouse abusers, murderers, and psychopaths. All those things are unfortunate lifestyles, and can be reversed. But they are still allowed to get married and have children. What's the only reason people don't want the LGBT community to be granted equal rights? Religion. But there is a separation of church and state. Your bible cannot influence my rights as an American Citizen."
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  • -3 +3 -6 Arianna Sep. 2, 2013
    "My brother is gay and I have no doubt he was born with it! It doesn't change the love my family has for him. We loved him before he told and we love him the same after! I'm doing research paper on gay genetics that they are born with it. This website has really helped! I can't wait to learn more!"
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  • -4 +1 -5 Jennifer Jul. 2, 2013
    "I am a secondary transsexual (= a late in life transition), male to female, who is attracted to females. My understanding is that there is a ratio of hetero to homo sexuals in the transgendered population that closely mirrors the larger population. In my former life, I was considered hetero. Now, my sexual attractions are considered lesbian. Those who don't understand "identity" have difficulty understanding why someone attracted to females would transition to female (conflating gender with sexuality). After many years, I have found a curiosity with males, but even if I try it, and even if I enjoy it, and even if I expand my orientation, my core or fundamental attraction and orientation, I am overwhelmingly certain, will remain toward women.

    No genetic link has been found for either transsexualism or homosexuallism. Both are believed to be an effect of prenatal hormonal washes of the developing fetus. But in the case of TS, a physiological difference can be found in the brain from those fetal hormone baths. It has not been proved if the physical difference is causal, or a related effect. No such physical difference has yet to be found for LGB, hense this debate; but it is stable and apparent long before puberty."
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    • 0 0 0 Wilber Stone Jan. 8, 2014
      "Uh-huh, I counted 37 people in the last few articles on related subjects, including this page, claiming to be homosexual, and, who didn't believe it was genetic.
      They wipe out your novel, 37 to 1.
      As is "scientifically" documented, over 80 percent of lesbians were sexually traumatized (sodomized) and most likely, all but a few were. No doubt, there are some modern imitating "wanna-bes" who, thanks to hollywood, or smutville if I prefer, have glorified the behavior, even while their own people suffer from it's effects on their lives.
      This business of, "I didn't choose to be abnormal, any more than you chose to be normal" is as deceptively founded as saying the homosexuals have no linkage to pedophilia, even while the hundreds of thousands of documents saying otherwise, stare them in the face?
      Denial is really nice when you're side has infiltrated every media outlet, government agency, research institute, etc., and DENIED access and resources from ALL the professionals who expose the truth, hence, making the republic into a lazy orientated society who'd all swallow the drain-o if you told them it would aid their 401k or make their kid a genius saint? Then again, there's that darn truth thingy that keeps standing in the way?"
  • -4 +3 -7 Aruna Jun. 6, 2013
    "[I was born straight] but, I think we are born straight; how do you know what you like before you reach your teen years? I will never understand or comprehend this ever. If people have to live deep in the closet due to family, friends and co-worker who might be anti-gay; then I can understand that (if they cannot come out of the closet due to fears and maybe death; let them stay in the closet, it is their choice!!)

    I was raised and adopted by white lesbian parents (I wish I had straight parents instead) my brothers and I are straight and our mom "married" her 2nd partner (which I never liked or agreed with; my brothers never had a problem with them; I did!!) They are no longer together, but almost 25+ years, they still good friends to this day!!"
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  • -4 +2 -6 Concerned May. 7, 2013
    "I read that it is determined before birth when the mother's body becomes to unstable or the environment becomes a hazard to the fetus (such as the mother infected with the flu) at a certain point in the pregnancy alters the formation of hormones for later in life. So technically it is before birth but does not take effect until puberty."
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  • -5 +2 -7 Jaya Dec. 26, 2013
    "I am a lesbian. Yes, people are born gay. Yes, some people don't agree. Yes, they are wrong to not agree. There is no such thing as an "ex-gay." They use guilt and "god" stuff in the anti-gay camps. I've heard its terrible."
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  • -5 +2 -7 Perry Tanko Aug. 20, 2013
    "I am quite annoyed by the christofascists and religious fundies that use The Holy Bible to justify their antiquated and hypocritical beliefs. Show me one bit of scientific proof that sexual orientation is a choice, you so-called 'Christians'. And yet, other Christians have better things to do know that the world is flexible... that the bible has a multitude of things missing (for instance, why is there nothing said about child abuse or for that matter, use of illegal substances?) and therefore a scientific and thoughtful look at the underlying issues should take place.

    SCIENCE. Learn that word, religious fundies!!"
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  • -5 +4 -9 Eri Apr. 21, 2013
    "Homosexuality is definitely given at birth. You don't wake up one morning and all of a sudden decide that you are bisexual."
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  • -6 0 -6 milkster Sep. 29, 2016
    "I agree being gay is a mental illness."
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  • -6 +3 -9 Samantha Sep. 8, 2015
    "Everyone is bi until proven not."
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    • +1 +1 0 really. Jan. 26, 2016
      "hmm, let me check... Yup! Im straight! and hey, i was "born this way" too."
  • -7 +1 -8 jade Apr. 22, 2015
    "i feel like that people are born being gay because if they kiss a girl and they dont like it at all then they are most likly gay"
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    • +1 +1 0 Bee Momiji Stotch May. 6, 2015
      "no actually. you know if your straight or gay by being attracted to someone."
    • 0 0 0 zuu Jul. 2, 2015
  • -10 +6 -16 Rebecca Mar. 4, 2014
    "Why would someone choose to be gay? YOU CAN'T CHOOSE TO BE GAY. You can't help what you feel!! You don't have control over who you love/like. JUST LIKE YOU CAN'T CHOOSE TO BE A GIRL OR A BOY. You DON'T choose what ethnicity you are. Feelings are something you're obviously meant to have."
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    • -1 0 -1 ron Feb. 1, 2016
      "read Leviticus. period."

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  • +24 +44 -20 Duke Nov. 18, 2013
    "NO one was either born straight nor gay, or any other type of sexuality. Every single human was born with polymorphic perversity, and we each develop our sexuality as we mature."
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    • +2 +2 0 Terence Jul. 24, 2017
      "okay that's not a choice then that's just part of human nature we don't determine are sexuality are environment does the place and how we grew up in is what shapes are maturity so it can't be a choice either way."
    • 0 0 0 Dorkish Sep. 26, 2016
      "I never thought about it that way, and I'm not sure if i agree or not, but that's definitely an interesting way to look at it. Gives me something to think about lol"
  • +20 +37 -17 Greta Aug. 22, 2012
    "As a lesbian woman in a happy, committed relationship, I have no strong feelings toward either position because I understand the science concerning the matter is either inconclusive or speculative.

    I've only put my answer on the Con side because my own anecdotal experiences have led me to believe there is no single universal experience for all gay people.

    Personally, I don't believe I made a conscious decision to be attracted to women, but I would be lying if I said sexuality isn't at least somewhat constructed by complex personal, social, and emotional interactions. As animals we are programmed to reproduce, and anything beyond that is incidental. I don't understand why making a choice to be gay would be a problem.

    It's my opinion that the gay community is picking the wrong way to oppose the anti-gay movement. Whether or not homosexual behavior is innate or not has nothing to do with the social or ethical implications of that behavior, and is definitely not sufficient cause for discrimination on that basis alone. Time would be more efficiently spent forming an ethical framework explaining why gays deserve equality under the law irrespective of choice."
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    • +2 +2 0 William Dec. 27, 2012
      "Excellent reply, and I too posted on the con side but as a committed heterosexual. Focusing on equality and ethical treatment would be a far better focus for the gay community than to bringing down marriage, which gives each of us a mother and father. One might say that support for gay marriage IS equality, but that ignores the basic purpose of marriage by so believing. God must be a homophobe for that I guess."
  • +19 +39 -20 Summer Feb. 28, 2012
    "I don't think that its determined at birth or that its a choice. I don't think you just choose to like someone, whether they are a boy or girl. There ARE some people who like people for their personality and not their looks or gender, you know. Don't base everything on stereotypes."
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  • +7 +16 -9 Does it Matter? Apr. 21, 2014
    "Why does it matter if it's determined at birth? What difference does it make if they chose to be gay?
    It's not our business to interfere with their sexual orientation.
    If it's determined at birth, so be it. If they choose to be gay, so be it.
    They're gay all the same, and that's okay."
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    • -3 0 -3 Omar Feb. 28, 2017
      "It's because they want attention and in some cases financial aid or special priveleges."
  • +7 +16 -9 Sharon Mar. 26, 2014
    "We are born male and female. Not gay or straight. If being gay was genetic, the gene would have ceased to exist since homosexuals by nature cannot reproduce. Unless they have sex with someone of the opposite sex, which doesn't help the case that people were born that way. Bisexuality, conformity and rape are not strong enough in numbers to account for any gay-gene to still be prevailent in society. It's a self-evident fact that no one is born gay or straight. We are male and female, and that fits together.(Literally and metaphorically)"
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    • 0 0 0 Nabelz Apr. 8, 2018
      "Let me use logic. Homosexuals exist to avoid over reproduction of human race. Does that sound logical?"
    • -1 0 -1 Derrick Jul. 3, 2017
      "Sex isn't just for reproduction. If it were Nature would have just programmed heterosexuals only; and only to reproduce. Also, some ppl are born with two sex organs, or transgendered; how does one explain that, using your logic?"
  • +5 +7 -2 Alicea DLC Apr. 11, 2017
    "I think social pressures and what someone says to someone makes them believe something that isn't true. I have a friend and he is a pretty boy but he's not gay. People are always telling him that he's gonna be gay and I'm afraid he'll listen to it. He strongly only likes females. I think the "gay" issue is pressed on people so they accept that's what people will accept them as."
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    • 0 0 0 Ather -fakename lel Jun. 19, 2017
      "who is the person who is disliking all the cons."
  • +4 +7 -3 Alan Jul. 22, 2015
    "As a gay man, I never believed I made a choice to be attracted to the same sex. At the same time, I do not believe a person is born gay. My sexual experience started at around the age of 10 Looking back on that experience, I could not handle or process the emotions associated with the social sigma of being called "fag". I felt tremendous guilt and same.
    At the same time, I viewed myself as different and less than my piers. All this affected my perspective of men.

    I was fortunate to have older men in my life that recognized my personal struggle. Healthy, non-sexual same sex friendships helped me to reshape my view of my world,

    I still have attractions to me but I have no desire to express my attraction sexually."
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    • 0 0 0 Nabelz Apr. 8, 2018
      "Well the point is, its not a choice. NOT a choice. Born with it, social trauma wtv. When it's not a choice, people have no rights to giv trash to ppl. But yeah ppl will tell them to change. Try to read As Nature Made Him. Bibiliography about David Reimer."
  • +4 +12 -8 Timbo Apr. 16, 2014
    "Abstinence is a "Choice" and in my estimation a much wiser choice than bi, gay or an adulterous-carnal relationship."
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  • +4 +9 -5 William Boissonnault Mar. 3, 2014
    "A lot of scientists seem to disagree that genetic factors are the only factors. Environmental factors are sure to play a major role. However, it does not matter whether or not a person is "born" gay—the real question should be, "Is being a choice?" And the scientific consensus on that one seems to be no. Just because you're not born gay doesn't mean you can choose not to be gay."
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  • +4 +11 -7 maddy May. 17, 2013
    "May I suggest there may not be one answer. Consider two examples. First two very accomplished musicians sit down and play a very complicated and beautiful piano composition with equal skill. One is a prodigy who accomplishes this feat with little practice. The other has been a life long student of priano. Second patient of Chron's disease, one has clear genetic predispostion if family history, the other took Accutane drug which is linked to development of the disease. There may be more than one answer for different individuals along the spectrum. Twin studies suggest genetic predisposition doesn't always produce the result, but there is a stronger tendency. Yet, not every gay male exhibits the X chromosone marker other studies have identified."
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  • +3 +5 -2 James K. Jul. 20, 2017
    "Nobody is born homosexual, our mind and our bodies are genetically created to procreate since people die every day, family members die, and children die. Heterosexuality is often found in nature and society since this is the norm that is built in us as preservation towards the human race. People choose nonnormative sexualities since they feel a part of rejection to one self of the opposite gender since they had been molested or raped by the same or opposite sex. If you are homosexual there is hope for healing and becoming straight, I know how it feels and it doesn't hurt to become straight, it feels bad at first, after a couple of weeks it feels very liberating and wonderful and normal. If you believe in God or Jesus, there is nothing you could do to make God hate you, he wants you to come to him, he doesn't want to hurt you, and he doesn't point your faults out. There is no mistake in creation and no problems in beliefs that kept society together for 1000 of years. Lets voice the truth and help the broken be healed, we were all innocent children at one point that have their innocence stolen away at one point, we have our bad things we wanted to try when we were young. Let mature and grow and learn and live free from brokeness."
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    • 0 +2 -2 Anonymous truth Jul. 23, 2017
      "So what your basically saying is every homosexual was molested/raped by the same sex which made them that way, which is very false and very much an ignorant statement that you can say. I also wouldn't bring religion into the subject because homosexuality wasn't even part of the old testament but was then added the the new testament. Not to mention i'm a gay christian myself and i can tell you by the way you "follow" the bible is honestly disgusting. though every christian does it as well. what christians do but not realize is that they cherry-pick what they follow in the bible. For example, you'll all judge and call gays an abomination but yet you also don't see most chritians not eat shrimps and pigs like it says not to in the bible or the fact that we're not supposed the cut our hair. especially how if a man raped a women that all he'd have to do is pay her father money then he has the right to marry her. so in turn if your gonna use religion as a shield to hide your true arrogance you're disgusting and need more help then us gays do. if you perhaps have any rebuttal to what i said i'll simply prove more of my point. So either follow all of the bible or follow none of it instead of choosing what you find should be followed"
  • +3 +10 -7 Laurie Nov. 27, 2015
    "I come from a family of 4 kids, 2 brothers, 1 of which is gay, and 1 sister who "used to be" gay. She is now happily married to 1 man and has 5 children. Seeing this firsthand, I totally believe it is a choice. My sister (who is the second oldest), has overcome and realized that woman was made for man and they were both created to have children together.
    Each of my siblings and I experienced difficulties in our life, and my "gay" brother, who is the oldest, has the most difficultly separating in his brain what happened around him and how he was born. What is most sad to me is knowing that if a man and woman are faithful to each other, there is a slim to none chance of contacting AIDS or an STD. But with a homosexual lifestyle, those things are the norm. To me, there is the answer-when we act the way God intended, there is less disease. But men have free will, and so this world is full of sin, bad choices, disease, pain, and death.
    So I do not hate homosexuals, but am sad that their choices many times lead to early death, much the same way that alcoholic destroys his liver-some die quickly, some suffer their whole life. But some quit and enjoy an alcohol free life, even they still may crave a drink every now and then."
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    • 0 0 0 Anon Oct. 11, 2017
      "Thanks for not hating us, and I won't contest your religious beliefs, but.... You can be a faithful gay. You can live your whole life with one partner. There is no such thing as a "gay lifestyle" which makes it easier for sexually transmitted diseases to transfer. What you may be used to seeing is gays sleeping around but that is not an exclusive activity nor do all gays do it. Fidelity is universal. The whole thing with the diseases was probably due to it getting passed around just as easily as it would for straights because it's due to lack of protection, and the lack of sex ed that covers different walks of life was the primary cause because people weren't aware that gay sex also needed protection. Don't forget that a majority of marriages before the modern era were unfaithful because they were not in love. Gay love is the same as straight love. To anybody else reading this, I am not putting down poly relationships, just countering this person's point so they maybe won't be so sad."
  • +3 +13 -10 Carson Potter Sep. 26, 2014
    "In my opinion, sexual orientation is something that could not possibly be determined at birth, for many reasons. Firstly, there is no scientist data/research present that has honestly proven this assumption. Secondly, although many scientist suggest that some babies emit abnormal hormone amounts at this determines predetermination, this has yet to be proven with any scientific date. Also, the peak of brain development in the early years of like comes at about ages 3-4, where outside factors such as environment, nurture, and experiences affect the development of babies and young children. There is no evidence to support that babies could be influenced in a way that would make them homosexual before birth, the only way is through factors after birth. However though, there is scientific research/data which suggest that homosexuality is an unnatural characteristic, such that it was not ever meant to be developed, for our very world functions on the basis of heterosexuality. Why would homosexuality be naturally developed before birth? It is not meant to be.
    A person is not born a homosexual, just as a person is not born a racist, a sexist, or a democrat. Each of these, including homosexuality, are acquired through life, not birth."
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  • +2 +6 -4 Lol Mar. 26, 2017
    "There are gay people that were straight before."
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  • +2 +4 -2 Matt Jul. 20, 2016
    "No. I don't agree but only because the idea that there is a biological model of homosexuality totally excludes bisexuality and I think that it could be possible with some people but I think given the complexity, it can depend on the person. Some may be born that way and while I got punished for crushes, kept up with those crushes in grade school and never stopped liking both, I can't say that I do/don't care. Before they put a name on it, people just did their thing. In scarce resource situations sadly, heteronormativity was ideal and to me, that is why there were a lot of historic tragedies in my opinion.

    Nobody knows and to me, I am just pandering to parrot theories. I don't really care either though."
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  • +2 +9 -7 Selena Gomez May. 19, 2015
    "I honestly don't think that People are born Gay straight lesbian or bi sexual. That is honestly their own choice. No one should ever be told they can't be bisexual, gay lesbian, or even straight I just find it really wrong. I am mean i'm Bisexual and no one has ever Judged me for it. So i don't get what the big deal is about being something other than being straight. No one should put any one down because of what they chose to be it's not right nor is it fair. I'm sure if someone who was making fun of gay people said they were gay would't like to be made fun of. Would they? Any way no one is born theses ways it's their choice"
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    • 0 0 0 Zn Jan. 15, 2018
      "Maybe someone have one choice.
      sometime straight sometime gay.
      Maybe someone love someone but someone look like straight and gay just identify.
      straight and gay born this way but identify another way.
      Do you agree with me?"
  • +2 +19 -17 Emily Osgood May. 18, 2015
    "I am a straight white 18 year old Female, and I used to be bisexual. I wasn't born that way i chose to be like that. But no one could ever Just think when i was born " oh shes bisexual or oh she's a lesbian" It is only the person's choice to be straight, gay, bisexual, or even lesbian"
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  • +2 +7 -5 TOL Sep. 4, 2014
    "I don't like the way this is phrased on It is phrased to sound like either you believe one is born gay and therefore you are pro-gay, or you believe it is a choice and therefore you are anti-gay.
    I am a well functioning bisexual 40 year old in very happy and committed relationships. All of my partners and I believe that all sexuality is a choice. To take away that choice by calling it something we are born with, takes away our power and control of our own minds and bodies. I choose to stay empowered over myself and my sexuality by choosing. In addition, if we cannot choose who we love because we're destined by birth, it should make sense that we can't choose who we hate either. I choose to love all, and hate none. It is my choice to be that kind of person. I also make educated choices regarding my sexual proclivities such as kink, power exchange dynamics, and everything else that happens with my mind and body. I believe that others do the same, and yes that includes all sexual orientations (het, gay, bi, asexies, etc.) and yes all sexual proclivities (legal, illegal, "moral," "immoral," etc.) This argument grows old and has yet to include proclivities or distinguish between sexual attraction and romantic attraction."
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  • +2 +11 -9 Nina Mar. 7, 2013
    "I know I get a strong opinions from my other gay friends, but personally I don't think it matters. The only people making a big deal out of it are the religion pushers who think we all just decide to be gay one day. They will ALWAYS think this way. You cannot convert their belief.

    Anyways, I don't think there is enough scientific evidence to say for true The idea that genes influence behavior is not actually so clear. But I don't think it's a conscious decision process either for most gay people (but I would still support a friend if they said they chose to be gay) I think it's a mix of biology and environment.

    For me it's just I never feel so strongly attracted to men and I find that my personality is often at odds with most heterosexual men. I've had some ok encounters with men, but overall I find relationships with women more fulfilling and very liberating in comparison. I don't always have to live up to some sexist standards of you must do this, dress this way, etc.

    Which is why of course I feel disappointed when other gay people try to police the borders of 'gay' for who is 'real' or not.

    I hope I get my point across I am sorry for my poor English, it is not my first language so please be patient with me."
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  • +2 +24 -22 Peter Jul. 26, 2012
    "If today I CHOOSE to be considered homosexual, who can rightfully say that I am not? If tomorrow I CHOOSE to be considered heterosexual, who can rightfully say that I am not? The CHOICE is mine alone to make and no one can diagnose, prove, or force me otherwise. Also, with exception to forced sex (rape), we ultimately CHOOSE our sexual partners and all sexual relationships are formed by some level of NURTURING. I fear a day when our sexual orientation and our sexual partners cease to be a choice of our own. If the PRO side of the argument should ever actually find a shred of evidence supporting their position, so begins a time where doctors, law, society choose our sexual orientation for us, regardless of our CHOICE in the matter."
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    • +1 +1 0 person Mar. 5, 2015
      I think that wile you are correct in saying that we choose how others perceive our sexual orientation, i do not think that you choose who you fall in love with. sexual orientation is not so much about who you think is 'hot' or 'sexy' but who you fall in love with."
    • +1 +2 -1 Alek Feb. 6, 2014
      "you can choose to say you're gay but you can't choose to be attracted to a specific sex. some people are more fluid with their sexuality but just as often there are people who are simply not attracted to the opposite sex. they didn't choose to be attracted to them, so they didn't choose to be gay."
  • +1 +1 0 Mama Feb. 8, 2018
    "There is no science proving homosexuality is due to genetics or any other science. What is baffling is that if you're straight you're straight, but if you have ever had a homosexual encounter, you're gay. Homosexuality is a complex issue including, for some, a genetic component"
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  • +1 +1 0 M Jan. 19, 2018
    "This is EXTREMELY unfair to all people. Being non-gendered at birth would increase a baby's freedom when it comes to their sexual orientation. In other words, it's up to the baby-not the parents."
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  • +1 +5 -4 helen Mar. 15, 2017
    "why is it even an issue?"
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  • +1 +4 -3 Jenny Jan. 24, 2017
    "What surprised me was many people think they were "born gay" through there genes, there is no scientific proof to be 100% sure that you were born gay through your genes. Many people come out in there teenage years, whiches weird because your mind doesn't fully develope until your about 25 years old, so I think the real reason why teenagers are "coming out" now is puberty which causes confusion & in those early teen years you don't really know what you want. Others may do it for attention, or the bad habits there influenced by, or even family problems shoot it could be lack of self love"
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  • +1 +8 -7 chase s. Oct. 25, 2016
    "no you can not be born gay. That is the dumbest thing ive ever heard of in my entire life."
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  • +1 +4 -3 Me Oct. 7, 2016
    "sexual orientation is not determined at birth because when you come out of your mom you don't even know what a relationship, besides the one you have had with your mom. and so who's to say that you come out gay. you dont come out anything"
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  • +1 +5 -4 Mellow Jun. 1, 2016
    "I believe homosexuality is a case of nurture and misinformation being given and key points in people's lives.
    I am a woman, but growing up from ages 2-10 I was convinced I was a boy and my parents were just not telling me. Now many of my friends who are homosexual or transgender would tell me that that was my inner being telling me that deep down I was really a man trapped in a woman's body. BUT in actuality it was a young child who saw that she wanted to do what her brothers did and not what her sister did. It was a child who wanted to work like her Dad not stay at home like her Mom. My interests aligned with my brothers and my Father's interests. This just meant I needed to embrace that was where my interests were not that I needed to get surgery or "come out". However, many twist this into a "you must be gay", which I have heard a lot.
    As to the attraction to the same sex. In many cases that I have heard from my friends they were abused by someone either of the same sex. In other cases the abuse came from someone of the opposite gender and it destroyed all trust with the opposite gender. This abuse can be anything from emotional, physical, mental, etc. Homosexuality, in many cases, is a coping mechanism to deal with trauma."
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  • +1 +6 -5 steve Apr. 21, 2015
    "You may not make a choice regarding who you are attracted to, but you do make a choice when you act on it. If you believe that homo-sexuality is "wrong" (unnatural, sinful, perverted... whatever), then you should abstain from that behavior. The same can be said for any sinful activity. We are all born sinners with various tendencies and desires. That doesn't mean we have to allow those desires to rule our lives."
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  • +1 +6 -5 Z Feb. 5, 2015
    "I think that there is a mix of nature and nurture. You may be born with a set of genes, that if activated, cause you to become something other than heterosexual (homosexual, bisexual, asexual, etc). I put this in the Cons section because of the "nurture" portion."
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  • +1 +10 -9 anonymous Feb. 20, 2014
    "People choose to be gay, just like I choose to be straight. It doesn't really matter anyway, it isn't everyone's business. It only has to do with that individual and what they want. Everybody should just mind their own business and worry about themselves."
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  • +1 +18 -17 Khang Aug. 1, 2012
    "If we were designed to be gay, then our race would be dead within one generation. It doesn't matter if you choose to believe in a religious 'creation' type of design, a scientific 'alien seed', 'colony' or 'evolution' type of design, or some other 'poof' we are here type of design... the unmistakeable TRUTH is that if we are all gay..... then we are all dead, there will be none following us. This TRUTH makes this overall question moot and worth discussion only from the standpoint of what has gone wrong with those that desire or want to be gay. It doesn't give us the right to hate them or treat them differently than any other human being, but it also does not give them the right to promote their veiw point as a valid one for everyone; one that others should choose to follow. This path leads ultimately only to the death of our entire species and the avoidance of this ultimate TRUTH for personal and selfish desires by the individuals promoting it."
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    • 0 0 0 Cody Brown Feb. 3, 2013
      "I don't think I've ever heard anyone promote being homosexual. That's ludicrous as most people on the pro gay side of this debate hold that it is not a choice. Also you could never get the billions of people on the earth to do it... I guess I'm not really sure i get your point."
  • +1 +9 -8 William Jun. 5, 2012
    "The argument is often confused with societies mascule and feminine definitions. Because a man or woman prefers what society defines most people of the other gender should prefer (colors, activities, careers, choices, etc.) this contributes to the belief that 'I was born that way'. However, this does not necessarily mean that these same people desire their same sex for relationship... however society gives few choices of masculine women for feminine men, and vice-versa."
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  • 0 0 0 Aero Jun. 11, 2018
    "I think no one is born with any sort of label. Humans invent labels and define them by themselves, so how could one inherently have a gender or sexuality, when these things are simply ideas we think up attached to sounds we make?"
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  • 0 0 0 Lilly Jun. 2, 2018
    "Honestly, coming from a mostly Christian town it is hard to be part of the lgbt+ community because everyone thinks it is a bad thing. In my opinion you are never born gay, lesbian, bi, pan, straight or ace.

    As you get older your environment around you has an effect on how you view yourself.

    I am a 14 year old pansexual. And I was the straightest person in town until I got a crushs on trans people, girls, guys.

    People made the myth of the 'gay gene' to try and understand why other people fall in love with the same gender because they don’t know how to react to the differences in other people's sexual orientation.

    All people have different reasons for liking the people they like not just because of their genetics. Whether a man likes men because he understands guys better than women. Or a woman likes a woman because that was how she was raised. Or even a woman chooses like women because she doesn’t want to get hurt by a guy again.

    And these aren’t just random examples these are real stories that I have been told by who has had this happen to them. And as you can tell it has nothing to do with genetics."
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  • 0 0 0 Anon May. 29, 2018
    "First, I want to start with: I personally do not believe people are born gay. And I also don't believe that you 'choose' to become gay. But there is no denying the fact that most research conducted has led us to believe that you learn it as you grow older. Through your teen years is when you identify your sexuality based on past experiences. It just happens naturally based on many different things you experience. But it is NOT something instilled in you from birth. The very idea is ridiculous."
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  • 0 0 0 Wow... Apr. 18, 2018
    "Really LGBTQ+? Listen, I have friends in the LGBTQ+ community, and I care for them. Don't assume that I'm just randomly hating on gays. But they just love denying biology don't they? First, they say it is humanely natural and moral to be gay, then they go as far as to say it is genetic? Unbelievable."
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  • 0 0 0 Natalie A. Mar. 15, 2018
    "According to developmental psychology, both nature and nurture work together. Sometimes nature blurs the biological line between males and females. Atypical hormone exposure or sensitivity may cause atypical fetal development. Intersex individuals are born with intermediate or unusual combination of male and female physical features.

    For those born either male or female biologically, nature and nurture play their parts. Environmental factors that influence sexual orientation could be what the world portrays to be "normal" or "accepted". Studies have shown that women who have often been hurt by male figures or do not have a stable father-figure are more likely to be homosexual.

    Biological factors that influence sexual orientation could include genetics and prenatal hormones. According to Camperio-Ciani and Zietsch, "The 'fertile female' theory suggests that maternal genetics may also be at work. Homosexual men tend to have more homosexual relatives on their mother's side than on their father's. Perhaps the genes that dispose women to be strongly attracted to men, and therefore have more children, also dispose some men to be attracted to men.""
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  • 0 0 0 Hachi Mar. 7, 2018
    "ITS BS"
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  • 0 0 0 Coco Feb. 20, 2018
    "I don't believe that sexual orientation is determined at birth. I say this because first, there is no scientific evidence proving this theory. Second, you´re experiences and upbringing adds volume to this situation. Third, that is a conscience decision that one makes. Similar to religion, yes, you might be born into a religion but in the end you make the decision to believe or not. Like with homosexuality, you might of been taught that it is wrong but YOU CHOOSE to be that way."
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  • 0 +2 -2 raised on it... May. 2, 2016
    "to be honest i i really don't know, when I was around the age five i use to sit in my room and kiss my friend but him and i didn't know what we were doing at the time. so i think is how you are raised. growing up i always played with my sister and her friends and everybody told me i was gay or asked me do i like boys and i told them no even though i done some thing in my past that i know i would've never thought about doing if i would of had a male figure in my life."
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  • 0 +2 -2 Daniel Teran Jan. 21, 2016
    "You people must think about this. How are you born gay. you must be able to have a gene that makes you gay. Also if you are born with this then why cant men have children. Humans would adapt to make men able to bear children. Now if you really think you are born with this show me facts. As a child you don't know what you like. Its with age that you know what you Like and Dislike. As children our parents subjugate us to the more heterosexual things. So now Let me also say this. Is it our job to decide what is true or false to judge or to let alone. We are humans we are not some kind of god. We do not have the right to do that."
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  • 0 +4 -4 bethany wood Dec. 7, 2015
    "it doesn't matter if there gay or not everyone is a person we all are brother and sisters we all are equal who cares if there gay or whatever don't judge people on what they want to be maybe it has something to deal with there past and how they were already made fun of think bout it put yourself into a gay persons shoes and see what they went through in there life to get them where they are now"
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  • 0 +5 -5 Elise May. 4, 2014
    "nope, Romans, especially in Pompei, were all pansexual/bisexual. Why would is change now?"
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  • 0 +9 -9 Robert May. 11, 2012
    "It's pretty arbitrary as to whether I comment as "pro" or "con". I just enjoy seeing both sides on this issue flail about in an area where there's practically no evidence, but where people feel impelled to take a side. I see no reason to think sexual attraction in humans is any more OR LESS amenable to biologic explanation than is preference for myriad other things in life, such as taste in food or clothing--it's just that nobody other than commercial interests think it important to determine the causes of those other preferences.

    One thing few consider is that whatever causes are found to apply to preference in mates will undoubtedly not be limited to their sex, but everything else about them that causes a person to be attracted to one individual and not another. We could probably save a lot on clothes, accessories, skill development, etc. if we were to learn, for instance, that person A is destined to be attracted to person B because of completely different factors!"
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  • -1 +1 -2 Tanner Feb. 6, 2018
    "As we all know homosexuality used to be classified as a mental illness, which I still agree with. I saw one comment on the pro side and it asked when did people decide they were straight. Humans are born and it is in our DNA to be heterosexual, so if someone is trying to defy their DNA, I believe something is seriously wrong with them. Thus confirming that it is a mental illness."
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  • -1 +2 -3 Carl Oct. 20, 2017
    "No. Sexual orientation is determined after birth. If a child is raised in a family with a husband and a wife the child will normally be heterosexual. A child raised in a homosexual family will usually turn out to be homosexual. A child will usually learn by example."
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  • -1 +1 -2 Acintyashakti das May. 2, 2016
    "Homosexuality is a sexual desire, an inclination toward sex with other men or woman of the same gender. Desire in and of itself has no active principle, it simply appears along with emotions, in the mind. The active principle is the "person" witnessing such desires and emotions flooding their mind, and then "choosing" to follow them. We are not the mind or the desires thereof, but we do control its content. The content of the mind can influence a call to action by the individual viewing it. External influences act upon the individual to make him choose to follow such actions if they are considered acceptable by society or authority. Some desires maybe more persistent ie. strong because the minds content has been flooded with them therefore they appear more regularly. In Yoga we learn to watch the mind, like a rock in the middle of a stream, we watch the stream of mindstuff, but we do not follow, in this way we realize desires like clouds in the sky, come and go. They are not 'me' and therefore I should not be controlled by desire, rather I am in the drivers seat, and desires are subordinate to me. Therefore Self control is the real issue and this is based upon the understanding that 'I' am not my desires or my mind but distinct"
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  • -1 +2 -3 Caleb Laping Sep. 15, 2015
    "If you want to know the answer just look at all of humanity genetically. We are all hardwired to "mate" with the other gender and produce babies. The proof comes from the hundreds of thousands of years that humanity hasn't gone extinct. If being "gay" was what we were "supposed" to do we would not be around to talk about this today. Yes you can choose to be gay and there's nothing wrong with that. However it isn't decided at birth, but in the later development of puberty in a child. You can try to say that there are "sexual genes" that decide it but in fact that's not true. If it was we'd have all died long ago."
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  • -1 +1 -2 Keaton Q Apr. 22, 2015
    "I personally believe that you are not born with gay tendencies. When born you aren't favored to like either sex, as you are raised you decide based on personal preference. There is no proof for either side other than how are you born with a sexual preference without exiting your mothers womb beforehand?"
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  • -1 +1 -2 Sarah Mar. 19, 2015
    "I actually think it's a thing that grows over time. Not like, a think that takes 15 years, but more like just a few years. It would be easier for people to understand the concept if they were gay, I'm gay (lesbian), and I've always kinda liked girls ever since I was around them in grade school. When I was 5, I didn't know what it meant to be gay or lesbian, even though I liked to concept of girls over guys. Not saying 'I hate guys', I just knew I was attracted to girls from a young age. And people always try to say being gay is a choice. I've tried being straight, but I can never really get into a guy. I can be in a relationship with a guy, but is it actually genuine? No."
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  • -1 +9 -10 KAYLAERRRRR Dec. 13, 2013
    "nobody is born gay. they develop feelings over time. or they can be raised in a nature to become gay. people are aloud to be whom ever they want"
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    • 0 0 0 who cares Feb. 17, 2014
      "we all have a little gay in us but its detrmitend by how happy u feel. gay is not detrimend by gender its detrimand by how u feel for some one"
  • -2 +2 -4 jacob Jun. 14, 2017
    "I'm con because people think there are more then 2 genders. either you have a penis (guy), or you have a vagina (girl)."
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  • -2 +2 -4 Joseph Feb. 23, 2017
    "I'd like to reference "fetishes" and how they come about. I'm not saying being gay is merely a fetish, but the psychology of a fetish may explain it.
    When a child, say a guy, is going through puberty. Say they go to the mall a lot, they might see a lot of victoria's secret ads or signs in that mall, and since they are beginning to have sexual feeling, they might develop a sexual attraction to lingerie. This is not definite though, but that is how the fetish would come about.
    Being gay may work similarly, but with the addition of hormones, genes, and other factors. That is my stance, but there isn't enough science to prove it at the current moment."
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  • -2 +2 -4 tinkerbell Apr. 28, 2015
    "honestly people are people. And i dont believe they are born gay or lesbian. What if a woman was hurt by a man many times before and found the comfort she needed in another woman. Vise versa for the male. A person decides on who they are. They can either hide it or accept it. Why does it matter anyways love is love.. no matter the gender....right?"
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  • -2 0 -2 Nick C Apr. 22, 2015
    "I do not think it is possible to be born gay since coming out of the womb there is no way to possibly comprehend what gay is. To be able to make that decision at that young is unreliable anyways since kids do not know what they want and the few things like food, sleep, and going to the bathroom they are not able to communicate it. I am a proponent that the choice is made later on in life do to what has happened in a person's life and environmental factors. People start off with comprehension of being heterosexual or homosexual to thinking what is best for each and every person, to finally making the choice what is the way of life. I am not against being gay, but I do think it is something that is chosen through life experiences and personal feelings."
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  • -2 0 -2 Chris Apr. 22, 2015
    "If people were born gay wouldn't the human race have evolved so that it were possible to reproduce with same sex so that they could proliferate the species, but seeing how this has not happened I cannot comprehend how an individual is born homosexual."
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    • 0 0 0 Bee Momiji Stotch May. 6, 2015
      "you dont need to reproduce when u are married, and they are making a way already for people to have kids as homosexuals."
  • -2 +1 -3 Stew Jan. 2, 2015
    "Putting religion aside, because of the sensitivity of this topic, most scientific communities refuse to determine where homosexuality comes from. But I personally believe it has nothing to do with choice, and more to do with mental health disorders and/or biological disorders. It is nothing more than a sickness, and telling someone it is ok or normal and creating laws that suppress everyone's opinion on the matter prevents those that are sick from getting the help they need. The human body is not even created in a way that would make male homosexuality a normal sexual act. If you really think about it, and I mean really think about what sexual relations involve in order to consummate a homosexual relationship, then how in the world could that be normal."
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  • -2 0 -2 Reed Jun. 6, 2014
    "Being gay, is a socail construct. Humans are born asexual, no one is born to be against its pyshiological structure because sex in true purpose is for evolutionary prosperity, that is procreation. That's why a male has an oppening onthe tip pf penis, to release genetic materials everytime there is sexual engagement. And no animals aren't a model for human behavior, there is nothing rational about using one organ as another organ, and pretending that it is perfectly normal. When they find the cause and are able to locate it, then at that point , no one can disagree"
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  • -2 +10 -12 Brittney Oct. 30, 2013
    "i am a con because we are not all born gay because while we are babies we dont even know what gay means. Being gay is a decision made when you are older. we were all made in gods image when we are born. not gay."
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  • -2 +9 -11 Jay Datbull May. 16, 2013
    "There is no chance someone is born gay. Ever hear of Adam and Eve? I would hope so. People develop their gay feelings with life experiences."
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  • -3 +1 -4 Alexis Dec. 11, 2015
    "I am do not believe that sexual orientation can be determined at birth because I believe that we are created in the image of God, and to be in a same sex relationship is the leading cause of HIV/AIDS which is the leading cause of the disease, and we as young men and women are not meant to die by the age of thirty from a sexually transmitted disease. Genes do not play a part in the identification between Gay or not, as the gene thought to be a "gay indicator" so to speak, that we can find in identical twins whom share the same genes, are not both gay. Making the choice to practice in gay sex may be influenced by genes, just as some are influenced to commit criminal activity by certain genes. We all have our downfalls and struggles, but I believe that we can face these struggles, wether influenced by genes or not."
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  • -3 0 -3 liv Nov. 10, 2015
    ""I think someone is either born gay or is not, you cant be raised guy or not; but I most serenely do not think you can determine someone's sexuality at birth. I really don't think a a boy baby is going to look at a boy babies and think "I like him more than the girl babies, at that age they don't know what they want, they are just an infant.""
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  • -3 +2 -5 Aleksandar DeLira Aug. 11, 2015
    "Allowing for gays to claim an inherent status will further exacerbate the damage they've done to society and encourage their biological war on humanity. Not only the aforementioned, but it will lead to giving them rights that expose children to their lifestyle."
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  • -3 +2 -5 Mark Jul. 6, 2015
    "I knew a friend from youth who I suspect is orientated toward homosexuality, though he has not indicated he was, he has always been however, one of the sweetest, loving little boys and has grown into a like young man as well. Others, from reading medical reviews, not influenced by gay activist, indicate repeatedly that some people can be swayed in some way to turn toward that lifestyle. Medical evidence indicates, at this time, there is no evidence for a predictable gene; such as comparable to race. As for the misaligned Catholics, they are the only institution that offers free health care and support for aide sufferers. They do not hate, like God love the person, not the act. They do believe that we are called to be chaste, if married, in that they are faithful to their vows, unmarried, to be chaste. That in the last forty or so years we have fallen short, yes. Today, a 7 yr. old boy saved 4 people and his grandpa from a fire, but he was not a hero; no-a gay person, who came out of the closet-that's who the President called a hero. The young boy died. Does it matter? When others are using it to redefine the fabric of society, yes. When others use it to define themselves, yes. Yes, how terribly sad."
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  • -3 +4 -7 james May. 18, 2015
    "I believe that gay people are influenced by their environments some people can be strait most their life and then turn gay all of a sudden."
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  • -3 +1 -4 Brittnay Apr. 22, 2015
    "i disagree because i think you have to experience it to know what you want"
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  • -3 0 -3 Madison Fogle Apr. 22, 2015
    "I do not believe that anyone is born gay. I feel like as they are growing up they learn how to go for the opposite sex, I think that most of the time they try to experience before they decide what they really are because when they are younger they really do not know any better."
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  • -3 +5 -8 Dishaun Williams Mar. 10, 2015
    "Homosexuality is a state of mind, not genetics. Homosexuality is being accepted because of pressure rather than something actually being recognized. Many argue that this situation can be related to the relationship between blacks and whites back in the days of segregation...but what they deliberately overlook is the source of the conflict. Whites disliked blacks for the color of their skin, something that is determined through genetics and can not be changed with a simple decision. Homosexuality is a choice, a choice influenced by how said person is raised, treated, or exposed. In this would make sense to inhibit separate but equal laws...they want to go outside of what is natural by desiring courtship with that of the same sex, then they should be treated as outsiders. Man was meant to be with a woman and woman with man. They know what they are doing is unnatural, disgusting, and wrong so they looking to make homosexuality out to be a simple genetic make up when its not. If homosexuality was natural, there would be men born with vaginae and women born with penises. Also, homosexuality would be clearly seen in WILD (not domestic) animals too. Homosexuals and their supporters are willing to lie to get what they want..."
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    • +3 +4 -1 Lucifer Mar. 12, 2015
      "Your sexuality is determined by some genetic and some hormonal markers. It isn't a choice. And Homosexuality is seen is wild animals, and not just for dominance. And the thing about the genders being born with the opposite genitals is completely idiotic, then they would be the other gender."
  • -3 +3 -6 Alex Smith Mar. 4, 2015
    "Has anyone read about Adam and Eve it is clear that God has made them in his OWN image . If he made them in his own image , and if he is against homosexuality , then how is it possible he made anyone gay? So with that being said it is definitely a choice to be made ."
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    • +7 +7 0 Lucifer Mar. 12, 2015
      "Obviously, if humans are created in "God's" image, and there are gay people. Then one or two things; 1) He actually likes gays or 2)He is a self-loathing closeted homosexual."
    • 0 0 0 Jayde May. 7, 2015
      "I somewhat agree with you but then again we are all people it doesn't matter the sexuality. God made us all different who cares if we like the same, different, or both genders? Its our decisions right? I think who ever goes against "gays" are just very self-centered fools. Let people be who they want its their decisions not yours. I'm bisexual does that mean i don't believe in god or the bible? NO. I agree god created adam and eve in his own image but he also created other humans and animals. Take animals, Are they created in god's image? NO they are animals. Please don't judge homosexuals. That is all i have to say. Goodbye"
  • -3 +2 -5 Ivander Feb. 7, 2015
    "Were you born as a homosexual or heterosexual? Neither. Why? Because sexuality is a choice. I choose to be a heterosexual for my beliefs just as a homosexual chooses their sexuality based on their beliefs. If a "gay gene" existed, how then, from the beginning, would humanity have reproduced? They couldn't because it goes against the natural order. What species is built to destroy itself?
    This is not a scientific issue but a moral one. I know that everyone, even me, have their own biases but that doesn't mean that the information provided by those individuals should be immediately discarded. What I say is wrong, others may think is right. Both of us have a bias but that does not change the actuality of the correct answer. Many people make choices because of their wants. Regardless if the choice is wrong or immoral, they pursue it to satisfy their desires rather than doing the correct thing."
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  • -3 +5 -8 Dude May. 23, 2014
    "Though I do side with gay rights, most people will assume that I hate gays, to be honest, if your gay I will help you best I can, I like you but I don't support you, now in my church our god wants us to live clean and healthy lives, being gay does not fit in that category that does not mean you don't need to change, why would god MAKE you gay if that's not he way he wants you to live? I believe homosexuality comes from childhood errors or influence, and even if you can't control it doesn't mean you have to have sexual relations with others of the same sex, you an be helped."
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  • -4 +1 -5 KK Apr. 4, 2017
    "Why do people who are LGBT think that they have the privilege to marry? Its immoral and unnatural. I think that they're swayed by LGBT supporters and brain washed into thinking its socicaly acceptable."
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    • +1 +1 0 Emi May. 3, 2017
      ""So you're saying you don't have the privilege to marry either. I think you're brainwashed by hatred into thinking someone doesn't have the right to marry like everyone else does. We all are human, we all have blood running through our veins, so what makes them so different? Just because they have a sexual orientation doesnt mean they cant have rights. Our sexuality doesnt define the person we are. Our personalities do. So they do have the right to marry."
  • -4 +1 -5 Vero Jan. 21, 2016
    "In reality, we are only human. I personally am straight. i don't believe in gay marriage, i don't even believe that anyone is gay, bi, lesbian, trans, etc. i think that we all grow and get certain feelings for people. Whether its a good or bad feeling, we get them. Honestly, I don't care. What makes you happy, makes you happy. My deal with this whole situation is that Jesus Christ wanted two different types of gender for a reason. Reproduction. He wanted many nations. The only way we can be plentiful is by mating with our different sex. male/female. I do not judge anybody for being the way they are, i am very close to a bisexual, but if it does not honor the will of God, creator of all, then i will not follow that path. Only his will."
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  • -4 +4 -8 Matthew Williams Jul. 27, 2012
    "I definitely think genetics have something to do with one's eventual sexual orientation-- From birth, one is definitely leaning towards a certain sexuality based on estrogen and testosterone balances, etc. But what ultimately shapes one's sexual preferences is environment: If one is raised in a conservative household, and/or if they do not have any homosexual friends/relatives, they are less likely to be homosexual themselves. I was raised in a fairly liberal family and go to a school with the highest percentage of gay teens in the state (that I know of), and I believe that definitely played a part in my bisexuality. If I had gone to my home high school, I would most likely be straight and perfectly happy about it."
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  • -5 0 -5 Gretchen Apr. 26, 2016
    "I don't think that that sexual orientation should be determined at birth. I think that the person should decide that for themself."
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  • -5 0 -5 Cole Klaustermeier Mar. 22, 2016
    "because if gay marriage is forbidden in the bible then why would god make people gay at birth"
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  • -5 +1 -6 David Willson Mar. 15, 2016
    "A person is not born gay. The invironment, and people they hang out with do. If brought up around male friends, girls may be more likely to become lesbian. Same with males."
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  • -5 +1 -6 Carter Apr. 7, 2015
    "If it was a gene then it would not spread, because homosexuals are less likely to reproduce, in my opinion."
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  • -5 +6 -11 LeRoy M. Jan. 6, 2015
    Since Gays, basically speaking, can't bear children,
    there can't be any "Gay Gene" , which means that it's Impossible to be born gay."
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    • +1 +1 0 Lucifer Mar. 3, 2015
      "You do know your sexuality is determined by hormones in your brain and not a gene, right?"
    • 0 0 0 Biology Apr. 22, 2015
      "Have you heard of a recessive gene? Plus what the other person who commented said was true.
      By your logic, oh, both of your parents have blond hair? There's no way for you to have brown hair then, sorry."
  • -5 +2 -7 Matthew Dec. 8, 2014
    "It is determined before birth, by the parents genetics and their personalities.I believe that the parents have a say if their child is gay before the mother gives birth."
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  • -5 +1 -6 Kevin Mar. 21, 2014
    "Very little our our psychological makeup is genetic. Instead, it is largely based on the environment in which development takes place. While I believe that sexual orientation is not genetic, that does not mean it is a choice. Many other traits like hand dominance are the same way: one cannot choose whether they're left or right handed, but it is a result of nurture, not nature."
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  • -5 +2 -7 Risha Rene Feb. 15, 2014
    "Sexual orientation and sexual ACTS and behaviors are two completely different things. Therefore, I am both Pro and Con on this. A person cannot control who they are attracted to. But it is fair to ask 1) what causes the attraction? and 2) is any person required to act on the attraction? It is difficult to know what goes on in another person's head.There is obviously a legitimate attraction to the same gender. But I think it is fair for us to ask why. Is it purely physical? Sexuality is too complex for that. Liberal and pro-gay rights professors, scholars, scientists, psychiatrists, psychologists have said so. There are many reasons people are attracted to another and it isn't just their anatomy. So the idea that sexuality or attraction is FIXED and can NEVER be changed is false. Secondly, no gay or straight person is required to act on their attraction. Therefore, one can be gay mentally but not sexually, just as a straight person can. I would think that gay people would be offended by the underlying assumption that that their attractions are purely physical (they are shallow) and that they are incapable of controlling those attractions so they must have sex. Being gay does not mean one is required to live that out."
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  • -5 +3 -8 Gillian Oct. 29, 2013
    "I think that you make the decision to be homosexual because I'm not gay and I believe that if i was born gay, I would be gay"
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  • -5 +3 -8 Mike Angelastro Feb. 28, 2013
    "Based on the Declaration of Independence, it doesn't matter whether a person's sexual orientation is nature or nurture. All adults have the right to engage in sexual activity with all other willing adults regardless of gender; this is an inherent part of the universal inalienable right to pursue happiness. So it seems to me that a pro/con here is not relevant."
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  • -5 +3 -8 Amanda Jan. 3, 2013
    "Even if you were born with a tendency to be gay, what if our society said something was feminine but another thought it to be masculine, and all of us were assuming sexual orientation based on our narrow perceptions of femininity and masculinity? For example: Being a lover of drama and music, to the clothes you prefer, the colors you wear, the style of your hair-- we too often judge ourselves as "oh, must be gay" based on the culture's segmentation of such relative matters. I believe all people are born with the potential to be gay, but only some are awakened to the reality of that thinking through early sexual experiences. At the same time, all people are given the ability to control these desires and reshape their thinking toward heterosexual behavior. Homosexuality does not naturally produce anything, so therefore, is not optimal for humanity as a whole. Homosexuals who say they can't stop or were born that way sound close to what an alcoholic would say. It is a behavior that requires resistance on the part of each individual who has been awakened to that potential. If it is not resisted, there are no other natural means to produce, and therefore results in societal disharmony."
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  • -6 +4 -10 Robert Apr. 30, 2013
    "No one is ever born with likes or dis likes, it's the same decision as to play Football, Baseball or with Dolls. I'm sick of hearing the Gay Rights Cry, Being Gay is a sexual choice that carries no rights, just a choice to have sex with anyone you like male or female, that's like all straight people raising up for Straight rights. who we have sex with is a personal decision, behind closed door. you have the same rights as everyone else, if you have sex in public you get a ticket or go to jail just like straight people. that's your equal right.. No one care who's sleeping with who, and stop using that as a I've been done wrong cause I'm gay, crap happened to straight people to, thay jut don't cry about it.. stop whining, enjoy life, move on and GOD will settle it in the end..."
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    • 0 0 0 Robert Apr. 13, 2014
      "Too bad they don't have some way here to uniquely identify us. I'm the other Robert."
  • -6 +7 -13 Eli freeman Dec. 14, 2012
    "No one can say they are born gay. They can become gay but no one is born gay. I think it is wrong for gay couples to marry and adopt kids. Kids don't need to go through that it is wrong to grow up around."
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  • -6 +5 -11 Jesse Parr Apr. 20, 2012
    "I believe that one is not born homosexual. A homosexual has made the choice to be homosexual. I know two people, on an ex-homosexual and one that is a homosexual. First of all, both of them say the exact same thing. They both say that I chose to become a homosexual. The "ex" continued on saying that he made the choice not to be homosexual. I, myself, am another example. I am not homosexual or ever have been, but I am find myself wanting a homosexual lifestyle but CHOOSE not to. I choose this because God created us for one man and one woman. Here is a quote from the homosexual friend I spoke of earlier and yes, the Christian and Homosexual are friends: 'When I was born, I was a boy with blonde hair and blue eyes. Throughout my childhood, I did not even think about my sexuality until age 16. At that age I slept with my girlfriend at the time. A few months later, I tried gay sex and found I like it better. I would say that I chose to be gay.'
    Thank you guys for reading.
    No hate comments on my religion. I don't do it to homosexuals."
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    • +1 +1 0 Robert Apr. 13, 2014
      "But if you could choose not to WANT a homosexual lifestyle, wouldn't you? So isn't your example in fact one of NOT being able to choose your sexual preference?"
  • -8 +1 -9 David Oct. 30, 2014
    "Myself I have Homosexual family members. I type this in the CON's because having sexual relations with the same gender is wrong. Every man should be with a woman not a man with a man or vice-versa. Along with that every child needs the balance between a mother and a father."
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    • 0 0 0 SVP Sep. 19, 2016
      "Breaking News! People can have different personalities!!! A guy can be nurturing and caring,and a woman can be intense and cool! Stop stereotyping people based on your self centered beliefs"
  • -8 +3 -11 katrina Roy Nov. 18, 2013
    "Scientist actually discovored that when you are born you are NOT born gay. How are you born gay exactlly? There are no "Gay babies" popping out anywhere. You are born straight, there are no un-developed babies thinking 'yeah, i wanna be gay so, i will be!" No, being gay is a choice you make when you feel like you are attrached to the same gender, and frankly babies don't even know what "being gay" is. I'm not saying being gay is a bad thing but I"m not saying it's to good either......."
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    • +1 +1 0 calvin Apr. 25, 2016
      "So babies know what being straight is...?"
  • -9 +1 -10 Andy williams Apr. 3, 2014
    "Weather you become homosexual or not its a choice that depends on the interest"
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  • -9 +2 -11 P.A. Aug. 4, 2012
    "tell people to turn on their god and their religion after 30 years of being raised within it. they will not turn. how deep and intertwined in their core 'self' that religion is is roughly how deep a homosexual persons sexual identity is intertwined in their core 'self' as well. both manifesting at an early age. neither will turn away unless something is seen, understood, or necessary. it must be uprooted and re-assured safety from the psyche's own fear creating mechanisms. even then elements may remain until all fear is eliminated.

    put an 8 on its side and a normal mans psyche is on one side and a gay mans brain on the other. a homosexual must pass through the tiny center area to the other side. this can potentially be scary and difficult to understand because it is NEW and expansive beyond just sexual desires because the "self' will be dramatically altered. many things will seem unfamiliar or hard to understand. many homosexuals seem mentally frail and fragile to begin with so taking those necessary steps and make those adjustments to pass through the middle to the other side will be stalled by frantic-ness and panicky fear and other psychosis."
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  • -9 +3 -12 Cara May. 11, 2012
    ""Lasciviousness is all lustful and sexual forms of perverseness.
    Lascivious is a demon. They're the demons that influence and control the mind of man, causing him not to accept any and all things that are of the natural or normal. Since satans transgression, he has worked towards getting men and women to go against the divine order of God. Whatever God has established and instituted, such as marriage and family, Satan and his demons are determined to destroy it, to change it, and to make it become a direct transgression against God. Marriage is not something we can customize after our carnal ,lustful desires". This would explain why people say they were born gay."
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    • +1 +1 0 David Reddiker May. 17, 2014
      "Dear Cara,
      I went to your site and found out a few things. The first is that the site is recommended by my firewall, search engine and computer as a hazard site, but I ignored it. The rest I should have guessed, simple pious bigotry. I feel sorry for who wrote this, because I can vision exactly how they became so ignorant. They were fed religious denial at a very young age and now over time the "holy" doctrines have formed a shell of insolence and bias around them. This site is wretched and so is your argument. You are claiming homosexuality as a demon and you cast off your religious morals for your sense of superiority and purity. Love and lust ore only remotely similar in spelling, nothing else. I genuinely suggest you cease this nonsense, but I know your self-righteousness will compel you onward in your swan dive into hate."
  • -10 +5 -15 Anonymous Nov. 13, 2012
    "Why are there more pros than cons? Sexuality is determined by how you are raised, not genes."
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    • +2 +2 0 Lyra Mar. 25, 2013
      "I disagree on that, its up to neither. There are kids who are raised in gay homes and end up being straight and kids who are born into straight homes are gay. so maybe its how you were raised or genes but for everyone its totally different."
  • -11 +2 -13 Katie Nov. 30, 2012
    "i was absolutely born gay. i hate it with every fiber of my being, but i've learned to live with it. i can't help being gay and those who thing it is a choice don't know, and don't understand. Homosexual people suffer SO MUCH in their lives. Why would anyone WANT that?"
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  • -12 +10 -22 John from D.C. Mar. 27, 2012
    "Anyone who claims to be a Christian (a follower of Jesus Christ, a believer that He is God) must understand that the Bible CLEARLY states that homosexuality is a sin, just as adultery or heterosexual sex outside of marriage (see Lev. 18:22 & Rom. 1:24-27 for example). Historic Christianity states that homosexuality is a SIN, which is a choice we make to disobey God. God does not punish us for how we are born, yet He says homosexuality is "an abomination", so it must not be innate. Some, however, have greater temptations to sin in this area, just as others are tempted to be a drunkard, a liar, or to profane the name of God, which are all sins. Mankind, in their attempt to justify their sinful choices, have confused the tendancy toward a particular sin w/ the concept of being "born" homosexual, or stating that alcoholism is a "sickness", thus reducing man's guilt. God, however, says that ALL have sinned - we ALL fall short of God's requirement of perfection - so He came to earth as the Man Jesus, paid the penalty for ALL our sins (including homosexual actions), and gives us eternal life with Him if we only trust and believe (John 3:16). God created Adam & Eve (not Steve) & wants us to obey Him in all things for our own good."
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    • +4 +4 0 David Reddiker May. 17, 2014
      "Dear John,
      So if all of these things are choices, when did you choose to be pitifully self-righteous?"
    • +2 +2 0 Someone May. 18, 2012
      "Alcoholism is a "sickness""
  • -14 +6 -20 Molly Apr. 24, 2012
    "A 10th grade biology teacher once conducted an experiment. In a large plexiglass cage, which was on display, he put two mice - a male and a female. He fed and watered them, and otherwise left them alone. They reproduced. Their offspring reproduced. Throughout the year, the population grew expediently. As the large tank started to reach carrying capacity, the mice's behavior began to change. They developed cancerous growths. Cannibalism, murder, mental disabilities, and, yes, homosexuality became common behaviors. Sound familiar? Is our earth at carrying capacity?"
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  • -15 +3 -18 alex Apr. 14, 2014
    "con because God created man and woman to be Man and Woman. Homosexuality is just a spirit. and a bad one at that. But the Prayers of the Righteous....and Gods power can and will help :)"
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    • +1 +1 0 Elliott Forrette Sep. 11, 2014
      "My mom and dad made me. Who made you?"
  • -17 +2 -19 Vinathi Apr. 10, 2012
    "Homosexuals people exist mostly among the richer communities. Mostly celebrities and first world countries. It's obvious that people get bored and want to try something new. That's how people get into drugs & alcohol (not that I'm comparing homosexuality with drugs). It's for the thrill. There is a thrill in doing something wrong whether it be lying, cheating on a partner, drugs, sneaking out at night, stealing, etc. You're not born gay, you choose it."
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  • -24 +5 -29 Ekka BB Feb. 27, 2012
    "I am very much against gay relationships and marriages. I do believe that thye should be treated equal because they are the same as everyone else....human. I will admit that my opinion comes from my religion. I am proud of it, but I'm not going to rub it in someones face. God made woman for man and vice versa. No man for man or woman for woman. We are not born gay/lesbian. That is the lifestyle in which we choose. Many factors play into the choice of being gay. Environment, social life, and all these things you see on tv. people try to make it seem ok. If you look around, even nature knows that female goes with male. Animals dont run off with the same sex and live life, they reproduce with the opposite gender. Even the animals know that they are supposed to be with the opposite gender. Once again we are not born gay or lesbian it is a choice we make in life. God placed on this earth with intentions of us forming reltionships with the opposite gender, what we choose to do is not pre-determined. This is just my opinion. I dont understand how males can be attracted to other men or women to other women. In all honesty it doesnt make sense to me.I find men super attractive. Isnt that the way its supposed to be ?"
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    • +13 +13 0 Julia Mar. 20, 2012
      "As a matter of fact, animals CAN be gay. I respect your devotion to your faith but the fact about nature being strictly heterosexual is FALSE. Gay animals actually DO run off together to live life. See :

      Additionally, I don't think it makes sense to say that just because you aren't gay means nobody else is gay because it doesn't make sense. That would be like somebody coming up to you and telling you that your favorite color (lets say for the purpose of the hypothetical it's purple) can no longer be your favorite color because that particular person thinks purple is the ugliest color there is and doesn't understand why somebody would like it and then they decide to discriminate against you just because you happen to like the color purple. Not fair, is it?"